ganja_claus
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Sure thing!
Your friend did all she can to let you know shes in a better place now.
On her birthday she got born into another existance and left you with best memories.
Even death cant take those away. |
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jfer
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When you cry, you'll cry. If you don't, that does not mean you don't care. When my best friend died I was mad, I laughed out loud at times, and from time to time, eight years later, I still think of her, and sometimes I laugh, and sometimes I cry.
Time does help gain perspective, but good friends live on in YOU. |
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beautifulNHmomma
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of course. Not crying is okay as well as cryn. Seems she is in a better place and you know this. Just be happy for her for she is no longer suffering. You are cool! |
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777
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You dont have to just cry if you dont want to, you cry if you feel it inside, and if you are holding it inside just let it go. |
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idontkno
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well sorry .but sound like your doing the right thing now .keep taking about it .thing will pass .but we never forget.good luck |
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Matt.
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Death is, and has always been a part of life. I know from experience that it is always painfull. Even when you know that it is coming, it still does a number on your emotions. Try to remember that GOD always works toward the greater good. Your friend is at peace, and will never be subjected to the problems of this world again. You on the other hand, will always have the memory of their beautful life. When you recall that memory, your life will be made more compleate because of it. Try to always be thankful for the time GOD gave you with their life . . . it was and is, "A BLESSING."
Matt. |
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dzhoschmo
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Just feel what you feel. Love her. Miss her. Remember all the good things about her. Time will lessen the pain and longing. But part of you will always miss her a little. /When you remember her just give her a silent shout out. Find some mutual friends to remember her with.
Don't try to drug or drink the pain away. That kind of stops/slows it from going away. |
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sjpadilla1
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Nobody grieves in exactly the same way as anybody else. Additionally, grieving will take different forms as time passes, and for each loss. There is no wrong way to grieve as long as you don't stifle the process. Talk if you need to. Clam up if you need to. You don't have to cry, but you don't have to hold it back either. |
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hham
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Stop thinking about it. |
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Gray
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Well, people deal with a loss different ways. When my grandmother passed away I didn't cry. I had to be strong for those that couldn't be. I know that I was horribly saddened though. She was a great grandmother and a better friend, even though I didn't get to see her often. I may not have cried but I was depressed for awhile. The biggest reason that I didn't cry was because I knew she would happier to finally stop suffering after 5 years of being horribly ill. I was told she passed peacefully in her sleep. Which, in itself, was a huge relief. So, I guess it all depends on how comfortable you are in knowing they're somewhere better, whether religious or not. Although not normal to not cry it can happen for many reasons, and I hope yours is for the right reasons. I'm sorry for your loss and wish you luck in the future. |
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pepperjg
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There is really nothing you can do to fix this problem. It is unfixable. Just remember who your friend was. What they meant to you. How important they were to family and friends. When you feel overwhelmed and want to cry, then do it. Crying is part of the healing process. When you don't cry is when the problems start. Keep your friends memory alive but don't let it take over your life. Family and friends can be a support system for you.
I have suffered a deep loss myself. It doesn't ever go away but it does get easier. I still cry when I think of my parents dieing so young. That was 2 and one half years ago.
Your friend affected you so much; they will be with you for always and forever. |
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susieq6464
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it is okay not to cry, as long as you are glad she is in a better place. You certinaly have my sympathies :) |
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evrclearnkoolaid
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You are on the right path by asking for help and talking about it. Life will continue it just takes time. Think about all the good times and remember that she is looking out for you and one day you will see her again. Help others who are also mourning her. Talk with her family. Make a scrapbook of the good times and maybe some bad so that you remember that she was only human. And just smile because she will always be with you. |
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Whatever
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Remember the good times that you guys had together, and to understand that she is in a better place right now. Knowing that she will look down from heaven above and appreciate the time that you guys have together. Death is not as bad as what we think. We do not know where people go when we all die, just know that this is not the end of your friendship and you will see her again someday. |
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MONICA
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Sorry to hear about your friend. Part of living is dying, and the best part is yet to come by my beliefs. people grieve in many different ways... It is okay not to cry... You may cry later or not at all. The best way to cope is one day at a time...Good luck. |
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ao1pete
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It is very hard. Try to focus on the fun times you had togather.Try to remember her laughter. Soon you will find youself smiling evry time you think of her.We share that B-day |
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softballqt_oz
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Every year on her B-day, hold a special dediction party just for your friend. Sorry for your loss. I know now you feel. |
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killerqueenbri
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everyone copes differently. never ask if its ok to have a thought or a feeling. own it. and whatever you believe, feel good about yourself, i'm sorry for your loss. this too, shall pass. |
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