spagirl23188
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No sweetie you are not a bad mom, I am also a single mom at 26 and I go out once a week. You need to get away and be with your friends every now and then. There were times when I felt guilty about going out and now I don't. My daughter is six now and someone once told me it is not the quanity of time spent with your child it is if it is quality time or not and if you ae spending quality time with your child than you are fine in the mom department. P.S my mom tries to make me feel guilty too but I tell her just because I am a mom that does not mean that I have to have no life!! |
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Draco King of Dragonmen
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This is the problem with teenage pregnancy. Chick gets knocked up and then pawns her illegitimate children off on their parents while they go out and live their child hood. Your a parent now, the party ends now. Step up and take care of your responsibility. Your Mom isn't the one sleeping with random guys, you are now own up! |
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AirborneSaint
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Your mother may be worried that you will end up with another child. I personally think that sometimes its ok to get a break as long as the kids don't suffer for it. I love my two daughters and I don't do anything or go anywhere unless I can take them along with me. The club scene and bars have no appeal to me, as there are only a limited number of things that can happen at places like that, and most of them are not benneficial to my children.
Something else you need to think about, that child of yours is going to grow up faster than you realize, would you rather spend all of your time with your friends or with him/her. The choices you make now have tremendous impact on your children.
My advice is to make your decisions to go out and take your breaks based on this. |
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Fabo
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No, however keep in mind your mother has finished raising her children, and she is probably bent out of shape if the responsibilty is falling on her. |
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ladybug
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I definately dont think your a bad mother. Us moms do need a break every once in awhile but what you need to realize is that your mom is done raising her kids and Im sure she doesnt mind watching your daughter every once in awhile... maybe you should have someone else that you trust watch the baby when you do go out, give your mom a break. |
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pulchritudinous
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No, I don't think you are a bad mom. But you do need to realize that you had a child at a young age therefore you have to sacrafice certain things, like going out with your friends every week. |
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luckyaz128
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No, every parent needs time off.
Don't let her make you feel guilty about it. |
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The Cleric
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No you're not a bad mom.
People need to live once in a while.
Next time your mom talks to about spending time with the lil one, tell her, "If you're taking me on a guilt trip, warn me next time, so I can pack my bags." |
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jeffrey' s lil angel
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no cause most mothers will not take the time to work at night insated of the day so yes u r a good mom dont let your mom feel genlty she might be jealous cause she didnt get to do the stuff that u r doing |
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shyNsassy
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My mom did the same thing to me to... It sucks really it does.. Maybe instead of going out with your friends you can have them go to your place. Tell them that you dont have a sitter and that you are wanting to give your mom a break from watching her too. Tell your mom that its not that you are trying to be a bad mom, but that you need time for yourself too. Its hard to have a child at a young age.. My son will be 6 years this month, and I had him when I was 19yrs... Try taking your daughter with you when you go to your friends houses, the one friends that have kids make a date with all the kids and make it a time to spend with friends and their kids too.. |
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hot_chai
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If it's just once a week or so for only a few hours, then that sounds reasonable to me, and probably much needed time for yourself. If you are depending on your Mom to be with your daughter during this time, I'd interview for a reliable sitter instead. That way, you can shoulder the responsibility of leaving when you need to, and you'd be showing your Mom that you are willing to be independent. If your Mom has strong feelings that she wants to sit for your daughter at these times, then you need to explain to her that she is out of place by complaining about it. You're an adult now, and it's a good thing for you to practice making your own decisions. This minimal time to yourself doesn't sound like a bad thing. Unless you're getting sloshed and stoned and sexed up etc. Then your Mom would be right. |
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little_dinky_17
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i don't think so i mean you work nights and you should have sometime to yourself... I mean you are still young you should injoy yourself a little |
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SeekinTru
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No you're doing great. You're mom is just worried that once a week might turn into all weekend, then everynight. Like the saying; you give someone an inch and they take a mile. She just thinks you might fall off. Don't worry about it. |
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kansasQT
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My sister decided to marry a known drug abuser and stay with him time and time again, even when they got kicked out of their apartments(he spent their rent,grocery,and bill money for his drugs). Then she got pregnant. He decided to do his drug abusing at their home with his daughter there. So my family finally convinced her to divorce the S.O.B. Did she no. She is still exposing her child to that environment. As long as your child is save and feed and taken care of you are doing the best you can as a mother. |
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