My husband has total control over all of our money. He spends all he wants which is plenty, thats great he earned it, he deserves whatever he wants . But he makes me ask or even beg for things i need, such as a new vehicle etc. I can spend what I want for small things food..clothes.hobbies etc. But it is only a fraction of what he spends on himself and his friends and family. In his eyes i own nothing , he buys me something and when i am done with it , if it is of any value dollar wise it must be returned to him. He forced me physicaly {not legaly} out of the bussiness we founded. I thought we had been doing all of the work ..blood sweat and tears..{and my life savings} for US. Well as soon as we became a winning team making plenty of money, he dumps me. When I sugested divorce, he became furious and threatened to in his words "leave me pennyless pushing a shopping cart", because he will claim bankruptcy , and in six monthes time he will have our biz all to himself making just as much.