HELP!!!! more on my daughter.?

My daughter is 20 she has been a total handful since she was 13. She has stolen from me and others, lied, runaway from me, from her dad, etc. she turned 6mo. of probation into 5yrs., she set my home on fire because she was mad, she was sent to the girls school, the attention home, the correction facility, she's been in jail, she's stole gas, money, food, checkbook, she got off probation for 1 yr. left town ended up in Utah where she did meth, spent 5mo. in jail for meth. She got extrodited back home for forgery charges. Now she's back on probation for forgery and drug charges. She lost her job about 2mo. ago told her therapist she had murderous thoughts towards me ended up taking just enough drugs to make herself sick not kill herself so now she's in the state mental hospital. She's been there 3 weeks, she should graduate like the 1st wk of May and she's 400 miles away. She asked me tonight if I would come to her graduation. I'm just exhausted. Should I go? It will cost a lot in gas.
More in4mation.My daughter told me she began acting up because I wanted to remarry.She said she thought if she was bad enough my fiance wood run.Well we've been married for 6yrs and she actually has a better relationship with him than me.Her & I fight bad.Her dad died last Aug. he was a drunk & verbally abusive.She picked up his verbal abusivness and uses it against me.I luv my daughter w/all my heart.I'm just tired of giving and giving. I still have an open door policy.People that know her say she is just a spoied rotten kid.She was given everything by her dad (gifts,$,etc).I went 2 court 4 times and lost custody of her to my ex's 2nd ex-wife that nver had kids of her own.I'm ex #3.I fought hard 4 her but because she was old enough and wanted 2 the judge ordered it.Go figure.Then she stole that womens checkbook and wrote $2000.00 in hot checks.Go figure

Read your own words. You should QUIT while you can and while you still have a shot at a life. Period.

I think your first question should be... why is your daughter acting like this?

Honestly, if it were me, I'd wipe my hands clean of her. If she wants to make a relationship with you, she can do it on her time, and her money. That is after she gets her life in order. As a parent, you can only do so much. At some point you leave it all up to them. She's cost you enough money, and problems already. I'm guessing the first time you take the approach will be the first day she starts realizing you aren't going to be there for her every time she's in a jam. She seems to crave attention, and you keep giving it to her for all the wrong reasons. She's an adult now, time she acts like it. She shouldn't need your help anymore.

Be there for your daughter, but just be supportive, not take it upon urself her responsiblities just bcoz.
She's now major n mature enough to handle her own mess

But yeah, i feel u should go.

wow....don't know what to tell you except that if you go maybe you can start the healing process between you and her....although if she has been doing all these things and hasn't changed yet I doubt she ever will....I wish you the best of luck in whatever you decide to do

yeah, go. she's your daughter. support her.

let her go on here own

By all of your writing, I can tell you needed to vent and are extremely distraught. The first thing you should do is go to ALANON.........................You first need to get help for yourself so that you are better equipped to help your daughter.....your daughter seems to be throwing alot of shame and guilt on you in order to get you to ENABLE her. Still, being a mother myself, I would say go and support her. However, understand that in the world of addiction, IT'S NOT FOR PEOPLE WHO NEED HELP, BUT FOR THOSE WHO WANT HELP....There's a big difference...Alot of addicts NEED help......but the program only works for those who WANT IT. She needs the support of a sponsor,a 12-step program and a support group. Until she gets TIRED, all you can do is PRAY for her. Remember, our children are GOD'S CHILDREN first... put her in HIS HANDS and ask him to guide and protect her.....My prayers are with you and your daughter.

your daughter has suffered and must be in pain. i hope so much that she will settle down into a happy life.

so what you ask from people? i think your daughter is spoiled. Let to her think for a little bit and tel to her what future is waiting for her if she will not stop doing what she does i think you should go for her party it is important for mother be there for her and show to her that you always there for her and doesn't matter if you married or not but may be it is you to blame?

I'd pray for help. Looks like she has inherited demons from the father. Past iniquities pass down through the generations.

Break the demons that torment her and bind her. Then go and support your daughter. Regardless of how she is, she's still your daughter and we all need to be loved.

Wash your hands of this. Keep giving here help, she'll NEVER grow up.
Good luck, i'm glad I have boys!

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