babeintheredbarn
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Why would you want him to? He is still just a young man, with out a clue. If he has a drug and alcohol problem,then he needs help. Kicking him out will just make him a desperate, homeless,alcoholic, drug addict. How will you feel when they call you to the city morgue? Think about it. He is YOUR son. He IS worth the trouble. |
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Chrysostom
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If being forceful and seemingly heartless would be a problem for you (which I am not suggesting that it should not be), I would suggest a more ideological approach.
Have a conversation with him. What does he plan to do with his life? How does he plan to be a responsible citizen? Talk to him, ask him questions. If he *is* a financial drain, sadly tell him that you will be needing to make cut-backs to the "operations" of the house - less food and less quality of food, limits on electricity, etc...
{Do not tolerate drugs and the misuse of alcohol in your house} |
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jordanjd4
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get him a gift certificate to u-haul
or do like my folks did, I came home one day and my stuff was in the front yard |
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Sagus
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Is he still in high school? If he out of school, tell him your going to start charging him rent. If he misses paying rent, tell him to move out. If he's slow at that point put his stuff outside in a safe place (if not in a reasonable safe place he may sue you for negligence) and change the lock, an added plus would be to disappear for a few days after you put his stuff out. |
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Amy Y
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Start charging him rent. It will definitely motivate him to get a decent job, and to want to move out on his own. |
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hide@seek
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Depending on what state you live in you could be responsible for him until hes's 21. If not start charging him an amount of rent that he can't afford. |
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dreamer
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tell him that its time that he became a man and learned to support him self and take some responcability... tell him thats the way life is and everyone goes through it and now its his turn... (overdinner) |
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magzwoman21
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Stop paying for stuff and tell him if he plans to stay, it's time for him to become an adult and pay rent.
...If that doesn't work you can always just kick him out. :) |
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Gangsta Penguin
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hes only 18 for cryin out loud. wait till hes married then kick him out |
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X_EvolutionSpot_X
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Thats the same thing my mom told me to do. Its good and bad in its own way because you have to think, if he doesnt have a good job, then he will be doing bad stuff to get money. And the last thing you want is your son selling drugs and stuff. I moved out when I was 17 because my parents were talking about kicking me out when I was 18. So I got a good job, started paying insurance, and a month before my 18th B-day I moved out. Its not a up and kick out thing, you gradually but quickly give him the necessary skills and advice to go out on his own. Cuz if you just kick him out then it will go down hill from there. Trust me, I know. But steps to get him moving are as follow to what I did.
1. Get a used car(if not already have one)
2. Get own auto insurance policy
3. Find a good paying full-time job
4. Save up to afford 2 months of rent and insurance.
5. After that he should be able to move out.
6. Also put some money to the side just in case of emergencies or anything.(trust me theres always something that comes up)
Thats how I did things, i have no car note or anything, only school do look forward to doing every day. But dont kick him out, its a graduall process. Make a goal for him to be out at 19 and follow those rules above. |
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KevCat
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Work out a deal with him where he pays rent. Make sure the rent is a lot higher than him renting his own place and then point that out to him. Charge him for the food he eats and electricity that he uses. Hopefully he'll get tired of paying extragant charges and move out. Or tell him to move out. |
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jen_hick1999
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if its too hard to just ask him to leave then start charging him rent, if that doesnt work you then need to kick him out. |
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Nemo's Succubus
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I don't think theres a good and or nice way to tell ur son ur kicking him out |
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johnnyli1993
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by telling him to do so |
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Reza
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make him pay rent. that's the only reason he stays with you in the first place. its free and he has an all access fridge. nobody wants to have to live with their parents but when its free as opposed to paying large sums of rent money and other living expenses, its a no brainer. take away all his privlages and he'll run away as fast as his legs can carry him |
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dtburdick
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He's 18!!!! My parents did that crap to me and moved to West freaking Virginia.
How about this, get him educated and a good job so he doesn't have 60 years of hardship and then he'll leave on his own.
Perhaps he needs a year out of high school to relax and figure out what he wants to do with his life. It isn't the easiest time for all kids.
Just so you know, I will never really forgive my parents for that crap. It is total BS so they could retire when they were 48. Don't have kids if you don't want the responsibility of raising them until they are fully prepared to take on the world alone. Oops, too late. |
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vb_course_ar
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why don't YOU move out, baby?! |
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florea_claudia2u
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tell him to leave and u can't stay any longer with he.he has to live his live |
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pullmychin
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sh*t in the toilet but dont flush it |
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Froggie
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Tell him he has 30 days to get out or make him start paying rent. It is your house you are the boss! |
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yayyo
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Ohh thats a hard one my mom just kept telling me I was an adult and it was time for me to step up a level in my life and that mean move out, if you know your son isnt mature enough to handle the freedom or live by someone elses rules you shouldnt make him move out because that means your not done parenting and if you feel like he's being burdensom in some way let him know how you feel and come to some tpy of mutual agreement treat him like an adult if you want him to act like one and he'll eventuall adjust. |
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Rocky
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Change the locks. Leave some clothes, important items, some college applications, and the classifieds in a suitcase at the front door for him. Good Luck! |
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oh_x_tragedy
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you probably have your reason for wanting him out. but he is "only" 18 years old. have a talk with him |
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cindycindyskitti@yahoo.com
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kick him out give him like a 2 week notice and when the 2 weeks are over just tell him to get out |
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Tay
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I guess you're getting pretty sick of him, right? Start charging him rent. If he really wants to stay, at least he'll have to get a decent job to pay for it.. Then if that doesn't do, let him come home from work one day and find all of his stuff in the yard. That should get the message across. Once he's gone tell him that he's always allowed to visit though. |
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jingtheking93(treven)
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put his stuff out front and a sing saying move out or pay rent.lol |
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Matt
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Approach him and ask him first to leave. I'd give him a time frame to prepare to leave though. Maybe get him in college. If he is ask him to move in with a friend. Make sure he can financially afford whatever living situation you push him into. |
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jules14009
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Sit him down and have an adult conversation with him. Tell him he needs to either sign up for the service or get a full time job and help with rent, utilities etc... If he was on his own he would have to pay these things. If he doesn't think he should have to help out remind him he is an adult and if he can't agree to these terms that he will need to start looking for rentals in the local paper. |
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Naveen
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Show him the cute sweet girl outside ur locality/town... he will be buzy there and will not find time to reach back home |
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brwhite2003
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You could start charging hime rent, and laying down a predefined set of rules.
In fact, tell him that he still hads to abide by a reasonable curfew. That got me to leave home. |
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