How should I spend my first day as a newly single woman?

Our friendly dissolution will be finalized tomorrow, and I'll be single for the first time since the '90's.
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Yeah, we were dating since college...in the pre-Internet days...and then got married. We've always been good friends but terrible roommates. Somehow, we'd become each others' worst critics, so...I'm once again a single girl. I feel like Mary Tyler Moore without a hat.

Go to the spa chick!! When I moved out from my ex I went to the day spa got a pedicure, manicure,colored my hair, and went shopping. Just go out and have a great time and celebrate!The hurt will come and until then party like there's no tommorow babe! Go to a male strip club, get crazy drunk and just live it up! Good luck and let the good times roll!!!

I would sit down and take a self inventory. I'd look back on the years that I was married and really ask myself some pointed questions. You need to ask yourself some honest questions that might make you squirm a bit. But, it's all in the effort to see if there's a pattern in your life that needs to be diverted. Often, when women get divorced, they start searching for a guy to take their ex's place. They end up going through the same stuff all over again. They didn't give themselves time to search inside themselves. They brought all their old baggage from their last relationship with them. It's time to trade that old nylon carry-on into a brand new Samsonite. Give yourself time to find yourself. There's lots of guys out there...many of them not worth your time. Once you take responsibility for the messes that you alone created, make sure they don't happen again. If you nagged too much, stop it. You don't always have to be right or have your way. If you were a cleanie and he was a messie, make sure your cleanliness isn't something that's a control issue. Being clean is good. Being critical drives a wedge in even the best realtionships. Choose your battles carefully. These are all things that a newly single gal should consider. Especially since you will have future relationships. Maybe write down some of what you remember from your past marriage. A book that helped me a lot was Love Must Be Tough by Dr. James Dobson. There are also a ton of books about divorce that are helpful. I would check out the ones at the Christian bookstores. They all give very sound advice. There's one called Growing Through Divorce that's especially helpful. I think the author's last name is Smoke. But, maybe for tomorrow, I would do some fun stuff. Things maybe that you couldn't do a lot of before. Like sing at the top of your voice in the house, to whatever you want to. Or exercise to some very loud music. Take a long bath, with a mountain of bubbles. Tape your soaps. While watching them, yell at them when they're doing something stupid. Or maybe it's time to quit watching soaps and start really living. You have a unique opportunity right now. You have some experience. Now, learn something about yourself, that you've learned through this experience. Take your time so that you'll have it right the next time. Good luck to you, my sister. <*)))><

Definitely go out and do everything you wouldn't do when you were with that person! Have the most fun doing it also!

Come on over! No, just messin' but get back out there and FLIRT FLIRT FLIRT. Flirting is fun and you can't do it well when married.

Revel in your new independence.
Don't do anything too crazy..... just enjoy the first day of your new future.

Let me take you out!!!!

Alone I suppose. I have been married for 24 + years. We lived together for four years before we even got married.
If I was in your position. My only thought would be to Travel The states just living for the Moment. I so not see that in my future though.

I like Chocolate Heaven's answer !!!! WINK

I say, " Go for it " !!!! BIG SMILE

get pissed drunk and party

Hmm... if you still have single female friends around, convince them to go to a club and dance the night away. Male strippers could be good for the occasion.

Buy a nice elegant hat, put it on, and go for a long walk somewhere safe and quiet (preferably a classy place where they have great coffee shops, bookstores, window shopping, etc.) and reflect over your past life and where you would like to see yourself in the future. Then go for it and never look back again â€“ but always continue to be as HAPPY and LOVELY as you seem to be - and GOOD things WILL come your way.

sleep and watch good movie

I think its time to sit down, relax and unwind yourself. The next step would be to plan for life ahead. While planning ahead keep in mind the learnings that you may have got from your past to make your future much more meaningful.
Best wishes!

well u have lots of options. u could sleep, go party, or just do something crazy. is there something u always wanted to do with him but he never wanted to do? go have fun. but no moaping, or pushing people away. u need your friends.

add me on your ym list
coldplayelemental

u'll forget everything what happened to ya!

Sandylynn...You MUST have several problems...!!!

you heard from me befor, i'm game, are you up to it?

wow! that's a long years you have been!!
how old were the both of you? ^_^

As a newly single woman where do you want to spend your first day and how do you want to spend?.please explain

Get a commemorative tattoo. something meaningful.

by not knowing your particular situation, it is hard to say for sure. Keep in mind that things have changed tremendously in the 10+ years since you've been single. Personally, if I were going to be single again, I would spend some time for just myself. Nothing extreme like going to a club, but, rather going to a movie (or theater) or doing something that I've always enjoyed (like a hobby). I think if you hit the clubs, you will wake up in the morning wishing you hadn't have. If you go out with friends, I would suggest keeping it mild by going out to eat or catching a movie (or something other than "clubbing".

WRITE TO ME, PLEASE!

Take time to write out your thoughts or tape yourself. In ten years you may be very surprised by what your feel today.

Most of all, enjoy yourself. Literally enjoy you!

DOn't do that....convince and stay together

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