dfrank102
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you need to be better informed you need to read this and show it to your parents tell them that it was a mistake but you need their help to make it better and your help not to wind up like other girls in your situation - time to become honest with them. becareful and tread lightly this can either help bring your family together or blow up but either way you need to get it out in the open read thinkingcaveman.net |
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Simba
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I agree with rinaez.
Many parents tell empty threats to their children to emphasize a point... you really need to tell them because you are not physically or financially capable of supporting a child. Most likely they were just saying that to scare you enough so that you wouldn't do it. Unfortunately it didn't work. Good luck with that, I know I would be scared to, I will be sure to pray for you tonight. |
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danielle
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You need to tell them... |
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davega7
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My whole life my mom drilled into my head that if I ever got pregnant before I was married not to even bother coming home. When I turned up pregnant at 17, I was scared to death. I went so far as to ask a friend of mine if I could move in. I had the address on my checks from my bank account changed to my new address and packed up the things I wanted the most. I was convinced that I was kicked out before I even said a word. Turns out that my mom who I wasn't very close to and had always threatened me with being homeless, ended up being my biggest supporter during and after my pregnancy. My dad who I was always close to ended up being the one that had a difficult time dealing with his little girl not so "innocent" anymore. Eventually he got over it too when he had a beautiful granddaughter. The point is, some parents will use any threat in hopes of keeping their child from getting pregnant or getting someone pregnant. I have a 15 yr. old daughter and a 14 yr. old. As much as I hope to God they don't get pregnant too early, if they did, as their mom who desperately loves them, I would not only want to know about their pregnancy, I would give them the support and encouragement I'd know they would need. Your parents will probably be highly upset. Just expect that. If they didn't care about you at all though, they wouldn't have even bothered to threaten you. They were trying, in their own way, to keep you free of the pressures and burdens you are now, and will in the future face. I'm not chastising you but what I'm trying to say is, they care about you. They just might react in a way you never expected.
I really feel for you sweetie. It almost makes me want to cry because I know exactly what you're feeling. Keep your chin up. Trust your parents enough to love you and help you through this trying time. If you think it would help, take a close trusted adult with you when you break the news. It might keep things calmer and perhaps someone who's not involved, can add some clear-headed thinking to the conversation. I really wish you the best of luck. |
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Donald A
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i do not know ur parents but the best thing to do
is to be honest with them and go with the flow.
remember that child u r carrying inside u did not
ask to be made but you chose to take the chance.
what i am saying is not to abort the child. |
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the_troubled
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You should let them know you're pregnant. besides, they cannot keep their word of kicking you out cause you're their daughter..and i have never known anyone who got kicked out by their parents cause their pregnant... they could never resist you getting out.
who's the father?? he should be responsible... |
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rinah
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I'm sure they already have their doubts, it usually shows when you’re 6 months pregnant. Try talking to them first, maybe what they said was just an empty threat so you would not even think about it, and if they kick you out go to an aunt or something. If the world comes down on you, I can host you until you’re on your feet. |
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psydi
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You are 6 months along, so abortion is out of the question.
Tell them. A lot of parents use that "kick you out" thing to scare teenagers into not getting pregnant.
Tell them before they guess. It is probably already hard to hide it from them. It'll only get worse if you wait. |
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hey yo
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you need to tell them. they are still your parents no matter what and they love you. |
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theriddler_evolution
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well i think ur in a big problem so what i suggest is run away 2 ur grandmas or aunt or someone that can help u face ur parents and then try 2 get help from the father of the child ur pregnent with. |
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Abhishek
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its an unfotuante event that you got pregnant at an age when you can barely take care of yoruslef. abosrtion is definitely out of qustion since the baby is more than 20 weeks old now,, its impossible to get the baby aborted now without putting your life severly at risk. and medical fraternity does not abort kids over 20 weeks as its very complicated by then. you will have to take the kid to full term . what i would suggest is you please inform your parenst as soon as possible, nothing worse if your life is put at stake too. tell them it happend as a mistake and that you are sorry about it. also plese consult a doctor who will be able to assess you properly and give advice as needed. take care and get in touch with your parents. its most important. |
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Cool Surf
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Sorry!
You should have use protection.
You should not done it.
Oh well, Just be strong.
Tell your parents they will not turn
their backs on family.
They will be upset at first, but they will have to
forgive you, soon they will be playing with their
grand son/daugther.
IT'S A PROMISE! NORMAL PERENTS WILL FORGIVE.
Try having a adult family member present when you break
the news. |
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matessque
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i know how hard for a mother like me to accept whats with you now. But the only thing i can advice is talk to your parents by hook or by crook because they are the only person who can really help you. you cant rely on other people even to your barkadas. First, save a prayer before you talked to them. dont worry they will understand and try to talk nicely so they wont get upset to you. |
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chickadeenest4
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Honey, I am sure your parents will not kick you out. You need to sit down and talk to them. If you are scared to do that, have your pastor or family member be with you. You must tell them now. You can also get help from parenting agencies. Look in the yellow pages of your phone book for family planning agencies. Call one of them. Do not put this off. Do it today. Best of luck to you. |
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hippyju
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Do you want the baby? If not, have an abortion.
What do you want from life? Do you want a baby now, and spend the rest of your life devoting your time and love to this baby. Remember this is a full time job.
Will be giving up your life for this baby, because it will be defenceless and will need you all the way.
If you are not ready, you should think about getting rid, and concentrating on your studies, and having fun while you are young.
When you have had your fun as a teenager, and have worked hard at studying, then maybe you may consider settling down and having a family, but not until you have devoted a bit of time to yourself first.
Stay at home, it is hard living on your own and raising a child.
DOnt; do it. |
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laragans757
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I'm sorry about the position that you are in. Although I don't know your parents personally, many parents make this statement to their daughters as a deterrent to pregnancy. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't. You have a rough road ahead, but I'd bet that your parents will be there for you. I'm not saying that they will be jumping up and down with excitement. Frankly, you've messed up in a way that has huge consequence for you and your parents. They have a right to be upset and you have a reason to feel some shame. But after the initial shock I think your parents will work with you to figure out what the right course of action is for your family.
Now, since you've waited so long to tell them I'm guessing that you are scared out of your mind because of what you wrote in your question. I'd suggest going to your school counselor or your pastor (if you attend church). Both are trained to help people in your situation. They can give you better guidance than most of the answers you will get on this site. If you need their support, they can also be there when you tell your parents about your pregnancy.
The sooner you do this, the better. Your parents love you. No matter how angry they get when you tell them, they will still love you. |
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bstoneseattle
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You need to tell them...honey another life is growing inside you and you are only 14 you are gonna need help..your still a baby yourself...i was still a virgin at 14..oh my god baby..I send my best to that baby and yourself..do whats right for the child..even if it's a little scary to tell people. |
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mutant.squirrel@sbcglobal.net
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damn girl your in it pretty deep good luck |
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Vincent
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Truly, your parents won't kick you out, because then they lose out twice once for you their daughter and second their grandchild. Just sit down with them and tell the truth of what is going on you may find they are more understanding than what you thought, but at least they can help in making a plan of what you will do once the child is born. |
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Southernboy
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Best thing to do is to tell them and be open and honest with them. Although they told you that they'd kick you out, I bet that they would help you out and eventually support you. I, too have teenage daughters, and understand that some parents might say those things in order to let you know that they don't approve/condone teenage pregnancy. However, when presented with the situation, they may be upset at first, but will get involved and help you. Also, by telling them, it will take some stress off....you can't hide it for long! Good luck. |
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tanya_d_macdonald
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Tell your parents. Hopefully, those were just empty threats, and they'll support you. If they don't, go to social services, call a relative, or other mature adult you trust and ask for help. Above all, don't panic. Stress is very bad for the health of your unborn child. Everything WILL be okay. The universe is friendly and you will be taken care of. Have faith and commit to doing what's best for your baby. |
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Saturn
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All parents say that, they wont really kick you out. you cant get an abortion after 3 months, so you are out of luck there. your parents love you tell them and trust that they will help you do whats best. |
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The Fifth Contender
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Mexico - at least it's not as unusual down there. |
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mrsnykialewis
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first of all everybody makes mistakes I had my first child at 18 yrs and my parents flipped out because I Did not tell then until I was almost due so really it is not as bad as it seems I think you should talk to them. |
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hman069
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It is very unforunate that you got pregnant at such an young age. Where is the guy that impregnated you ? Are you recieving from him, because this life you are carrying is his responsibility also. If you are afraid of your parents reaction, then I suggest your local religious organization, or Planned Parenthood. Even hospitals have some kind counseling servies that they can provide, please try and get help very soon. |
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Elle Dee
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First of all you shouldn't be worrying about why you can't get next to some guy and second of all, you're six months gone then you are gonna have this baby, no doctor would abort you now. So you can either wait three more months and have a new life be born, on your own, scared and in pain or you can tell your parents/teacher and you can be in some way prepared to make the experience less traumatising. |
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prem_hahai
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get aborted as soon as possible by a doctor....... |
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