sherasi
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Do you have any friends that you may be able to live with? If you do, discuss the issue with their parents and offer to help contribute to the house upkeep (cleaning, meal cooking etc) if they will allow you to stay at their home if and when you get the boot by your father. |
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oohhbother
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I don't know what your school district is like, they may have their hands full but try the guidance office. They may be able to help you. They usually do everything they can to help students graduate and I'm sure they will not like what you have been burdened with.
If you have a church, they may be able to help. Some churches will help if you even WANT to be a member and start attending.
Most adults do not like these kinds of ultimatums. There are two types of parenting, supportive and authoritarian. Both types are subject to bad and good implementations. This is a failed version of authoritarianism. |
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oldbutgood
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You have four months to make your Dad change his mind. Just be that perfect kid your Dad's always dreamed of. Pretend, It won't kill you, and it may buy you some time. Try helping around the house and any other chore that might please your Dad. It's called kissing butt to survive. Good luck !! |
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Tracker
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If you go to church, check with your pastor. If you don't go, you could start. Ask your heavenly Father to help you. He will never turn you away. Ask Jesus to come into your life. He said, he will NEVER leave you, or forsake you. My earthly father was mean and kicked me out too, but God has shown me love ever since I asked him in my life, and has blessed me beyond words, and he will do the same for you. I wish you the best. |
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Trillian
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Changing the way you feel about your father and how he feels about you in 4 months is a long shot. If you don't have the money to find a place of your own, you can propose to you dad to loan you the money until you finish high school OR in the alternative, let you stay in the house while you pay rent but the payment of the rent will be a loan which you will pay him once you finish high school and get a job.
This really depends on whether or not he wants you to hang around him. If he doesn't want to loan you the rent until you graduate, tell him you will have to work these 4 months until he kicks you out so that you have money for a place. That would only be reasonable.
The loan thing may also work with other relatives. OR if you don't have any relatives, you may have friends who can help you out by paying 1 month's rent (you will need 12 good friends for this) on loan. At least, that won't be too much to shell out. I hope you find a way! Good luck! |
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foxinsox
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As someone who was on their own at 17....
you need to access your assets.
You are 17, child protective will protect you. Someone mentioned the school guidance counselor.that is a good idea.
You also don't mention WHY your "father" wants you out at 18, do you do drugs? not follow house rules? are you disrespectful and moody? do you think picking up after yourself is a treat for your parents? maybe its just a communication thing where you need to realize that your dad does more for you than you appreciate..maybe your dad is unreasonable.either way..access yourself and your dads "so called" reasons for kicking you out.
start looking at housing...you will realize that you have it darn good where you are unless you are being abused. look at jobs...contact friends with loving parents to see if their couch is an option. contact the school dist. many places have "intervention" volunteers that facilitate temp. housing for teens.
and...make sure you get to college...i know that seems unreachable when you are nearly homeless with a year left of hs but...contact colleges and apply for aid...a college education will help you prevent this from happening to your kids.
good luck! |
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Dough
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Try calling some friends and relatives. |
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gay_42day
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condo! |
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deb
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check and see if there is a YMCA in your area and maybe they could let you stay there until you graduate and possibly help you get a job. Also you could always join the milatary and get help from them with a career they always need good people. |
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alyaknatasha2006
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Who is this man you call a father?? |
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riverelk1
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Sorry! You should have a help line in your city. If you check the phone book you may find it. Our help line is called First Call for Help. They can really help in situations like yours. You may be better off somewhere else. |
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btaylor7_45356
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Sorry to read about your problems, my son will be 18 in a year there is no way I could ever let his father throw him out, dad would go first.
does your town have community action center or human services I know people hate going and asking for help but if you got no where to go it might be your only choice.
and you gotta do what you gotts do. Good luck! |
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willcy0721
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sorry about that dude
hotel might be your only way for now |
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Zak
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Go to your school guidence counsler......
They will be able to help you secure a place untill you finish highschool.... |
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tinaturner
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you need to be putting in job applications,look for on the spot interviews signs.How are you going to pay rent with no job.Tell your father that you need to work so that you can save money until he puts you out.where I live people can go stay at the YMCA when they have no place to go.good luck and please finish school. |
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artsy1
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my advice is to quit fighting and kiss some major butt, even if you don't mean it, at least until you're graduated from school. You can sacrifice one year out of your life to obey this man's wishes to get that diploma...once you've gotten that, head off to college and then you're home free as long as you keep a head on your shoulders and don't waste the opportunity. If nothing else head to mcdonald's after graduation. Try to find a good roomate to share bills with.. |
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bigd309us
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it sounds to me like you better suck it up and change your ways to come to an understanding with your dad. i know it will be hard but you have 4 months to change yourself and your dads ways.. Good luck |
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zuvalopa
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phone children's aid before u are 18, or join the military |
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