Jessica_Anne
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I would take a long hard look at your options. Moving into your boyfriend's dorm is NOT an option. If you were married, married student housing might be an option, but those slots are usually filled up far in advance. Dorm co-existance is rare and frowned upon in the more high quality schools. |
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pamela-burnett@sbcglobal.net
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Well, in the first place why are you living with your grandma? Running away is not the answer to your problem. You would need to talk to your boyfriend and his mom about moving in with them and not all parents are open to that . Moving into a dorm with him is not an option. Sit your grandma down and have a tlak with her and see if there isn't some kind of compromise that you can reach with each other. Find out what is bugging her and tell her what is bugging you. Good Luck! |
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lil_nemo_2005
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Don't run away from home. The only reason that your grandmother is getting on your back is because she cares. If it is the rules that you are having problems with, have a sit down with her and talk to her. I know that you have a boyfriend, BUT if you do move in with him and you eventually you break up, what is going to happen? Are you going to go back home? or are you going to be on the streets? Work things out with grandma. You can come to a happy medium if you talk things out.
Good luck, and don't run away from home. You'll hurt your g'ma if you do that. |
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s.o.s
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i'm not sure but i think you might just need time. its not good to just run away from home. let your grandma know whats bothering you and give her a chance to tell you the same. maybe you can work something out.. running away from your problem won't solve it |
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Lamont Cranston
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You need to get authority oriented in a big hurry I think. Your elders have "been there and done that" or they are smart and know people who made mistakes. What makes you think you know what is best for you at your age? You are probably only a kid! You will later regret moving in with your boy friend and then want to move out from him after he starts telling you what to do. It will never end until you develop some capacity for life. Sorry I know this hurts but sometimes that is what you need. |
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veteranpainter
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A bird in hand ,is worth two in two in the bush!! |
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Xero
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Don't make any rash decisions. Think about what's better for you and your future. |
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jeremy1952
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Please give a long hard thought to what "getting on my back about stuff" really means. Put it in perspective; its WORDS. Words can be ignored. Just pretend she's not there and get on with your life just as if you lived where you are alone.
The very worst reason to live with someone is because you want to get away from somewhere else. If this boy is the one for you, you could be ruining your future happniess; and if he's not the one for you... well, it could be really bad.
Take some time, chill out, try to get some perspective. Keep writing! |
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bijou
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hang in there girl. you didn't say how old you are, but it sounds like you're in a stage of your life where its really really hard to see the big picture. as long as no one is abusing you, i think you should just tough it out. i promise, one day you will look back and realize that even though it all seemed MAJOR at the time compared to the rest of your life experiences it was really a bump in the road. that's not what you want to hear right now, but i promise you that is the absolute truth.
so, put a smile on your face and know that life has bigger and better things in store for you. |
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keshia_alex4ever
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umm.i don't think it would be wise...sit dowm wit ur parents n talk to them maybe they need ur imput...just talk to hem n try to work it out...GOOD LUCK!! |
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cloeen
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Honey, please dont run away! Dont rush into anything! I am sorry things have been so hard on you ! I am sure your grandma loves you ! Maybe she just has a hard time dealing with you ! Remember things were alot different for older folks growing up! Moving in with your guy is not the answer! Then you might get pregnant- you are alone if you are not having sex- then you might start ! Try to work it out with your grandma!! Good Luck!! Do you have a friend you can talk to [ an adult in your life you can trust!?} |
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Morrisevers
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I would suggest to grow up. Things most likely won't be all clear and Rosy if you move out and you're not really ready. You don't say what the stupid stuff is, so there really isn't anyone who might be mature enough to understand the situation who could determine how stupid the stuff really is. You sound like you are under 17 and you are living in a situation that is probably a result of some tough circumstances. You wouldn't want to rush into anything you aren't too sure of right now. I would suggest you might consider some professional counseling. Don't be persuaded by your peers. |
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n4il_p0lish2000
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listen to me do not i repeat DO NOT move in with your boyfriend or get a new one to move in with it will not solve your problems at all it will only give you new ones DO NOT move out till you can support yourself on your own 2 feet or you will regret it later in life. |
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sadealz
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what is your grandmother doing to make you fed up? If it is something as simple as cleaning your room or common stuff like that then to make life easier then just do it...if they are abusive to you then maybe you should consider other options. |
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knowsitall
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I lived in a home where my mother was always in a rage at me. I now realize she is not right in the head. I guess I realized it back then too.
If I could go back to that time I would try harder to talk to her when she wasn't mad about something and tell her that her rages are making me miserable and she needs to be nicer to me. It is so hard when you are the kid I know. But tell her you feel really desperate and could she please be kinder in how she talks to you. I know it would take all the nerve you can get up. But tell her you have a lot of pressure at school and from the teachers and kids and could she please ease up on some of the pressure she puts on you.
Say it very quietly and CALMLY. This is the key. Do not raise your voice no matter what she says. She may try to escalate it into a war or yelling match but don't respond.
If she does this just calmly walk away.
Never raise your voice, no matter what, to her.
Say what you need to say when she is relaxed and calm, and do not get excited even if she gets excited. Stay calm and cool and quiet no matter what.
If she gets excited walk away calmly. Wait a few days and try it again the same way. Again if she gets upset walk away calmly.
Do not whine, beg, get emotional at all.
Just say to her, without any emotion at all in a quiet calm voice when she is CALM AND RELAXED, "I really need for you to ease up on the pressure you put on me. I have lots of pressure at school and the pressure you are putting on me makes me feel desparate. Please stop."
Then walk away. No matter what her response it, do not engage in any more conversation at all or respond to her. Above all do not get emotional.
If she doesn't stop, say it again in a few days or weeks, calmly. Keep doing it until she gets it.
She may blow the first time you say it if your family is bad, but just ignore it and walk away.
Then try it again in a few days.
Leaving home will make things worse for you in the long run, probably.
I don't think they let girls move in with guys in their dorm rooms.
I know you want to spend more time with your boyfriend. But once you do that you can kiss your childhood goodbye. I wish I knew how old you are. I remember my mom was always mad because I was out all night with my boyfriend. But my home was so unhappy was one of the reasons!
You were not specific about what she is on your back for.
Could you tell me an example of what she says or does? |
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jennifergenung
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Don't run away from home. One day your grandma will need you and you won't be there. Try to tell her the truth about how you feel. Trust me. It always works. |
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One of the Baldwin brothers
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Story time: I used to live with my grandmother also, rest her soul but she was a b!tch. I ran away from home. Not in the traditional sense, but I enlisted in the US Marine Corps at the age of 17 just to get out of the house, I now realize it wasn't the greatest decision I have ever made. My advice is to tough it out, I know its depressing, but don't throw away your chances because of some friction. Good luck. |
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dlfry
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I like KNOWSITALL's answer. I recommend tying it first. |
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Inquisitive
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I don't know how old U are, But I do know that U don't have much longer 2 go. Stick with it. You'll be on UR own, soon enough. By that time, you might even wish U were back w/ UR grandma. Things are tough out there in the real world, sweety. Take care, and hold on just a little while longer. |
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reecesrcool
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it has been my experience that after living with some1 for so long then you need a break a week or 2 maybe depends on you. example when i lived at home my stepdad and i could never get along every night there was yelling at me from him but when i moved out after a couple weeks things were fine when i went back to visit everything was hunky dory but after long enough i would have to have another small vacation. if you can achieve this then it would be a good idea till u get your own place permanently |
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Michelle
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Now that sounds familiar! How old you are would have something to do with what I suggest, but I guess if you are too young you wouldn't legally be able to move in with your boyfriend anyhow.
If you know your boyfriend real well and his parents are ok with it, I would say go for it! (assuming that his house is safe and everything) I lived with my grandma when I was 19 and got fed up with her rules. "be home before dark, don't spend so much time with that guy down the street, here's some money - go buy some better clothes." I know that she had good intentions, but it was driving me crazy! And even though things didn't work out very well between me and my boyfriend, I would do it again. I did a lot of growing up while away from my family always telling me what to do. Also, even though the way I left caused tension between my family and me, it didn't cause as much as me snapping if I had to spend another month in that house would have.
Go for it and enjoy life :) Just be safe and keep in touch with your family even if it is ackward at first. If you have an opportunity to get a good job and your own place or a room mate first, do that. You may be able to enjoy time with your boyfriend even more without his mom always there. And if something happens and you and your boyfriend realize that y'all don't get along too well 24/7 - at least you will still have a place to live. |
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qwerty654321
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i think that u should talk it out wit ur parentz and if that dont help, then do what u think is right!!!!!:) |
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koby_31
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NO to move with boyfriend, after some time he will be worse than the grandma. don't look for some one to change your life, you have to do it for yourself, believe me.
pray to god to show you the way. i am not religes but i am studing kabala.
good luck |
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