I have a big problem with bullies. can anyone help?

there are these bullies at school who only bully me cause im weaker.
i'm only 12, but i already have a girlfriend, but if i swich schools, i wont meet up with her almost at all. i dont like switching schools anyway. is there a way that i could do anything to stop them or atleaste get revenge.

sry, but i will send you guys messages saying what would go wrong if your ansewars get something bad leading to them. I TRIED EVERYTHING POSSIBLE!!!!!
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preferably revenge. those idiots got me so mad that im going crazy...

When I was in your shoes, I signed up for Karate lessons. I never had to actually fight, but the idea that I was studying fighting and was willing to fight for a hobby led the bullies to seek weaker victims. The bullies themselves are essentially ego-challenged and won't risk being humiliated (although I wouldn't be so crude as to tell them this). If you can, I recommend tradional Akido instead (not the crappy competitive junk "American" version). If your dojo master is all about competition, move. Real martial arts trains the body, mind, and soul, not just how to beat someone else up.

It's possible that your school is much worse than most (run more by gangs than the school staff). If that's the case, moving would be a good career move because the quality of your school will be very low. If that happens, then the REAL bullies (bosses, con artists, and the other adults that try to put you down) will haunt you for the rest of your life. If you're in that situation and hellbent on staying, then good luck! You will need to get a cultural change going and that will basically take getting the WHOLE school mobilized towards disempowering and ostracizing the gangs. In this case, study either peaceful leaders like Gandhi and MLK if you want a pleasant school or violent leaders like the young Malcolm X or Ghengis Khan if you want the whole school carrying some sort of weapon.

In substantially less violent situations, calling on authorities like parents and teachers can be useful if done vindictively. Don't let them think you're being a panzy about it, but present an attitude that the teacher/parent/other authority is actually seen as your tool of violence against them. I also liked setting situations where they almost felt relieved to be caught - the "aren't you glad that it's the teacher solving your problem and not me and my friends beating your head in" routine works best after you've studied some martial arts. At that point, you can emote pity for the bullies, who are really just stupid brutes and probably don't know any better. This is a very different "telling the teacher" than when done in fear and cowardice because you are acting from a position of power. Did I mention that they have fragile egos and hunt the weak and fearful? They are slightly more evolved than dogs, although dogs are often better trained. Being cruel doesn't really help and beating them up probably won't change them. I was always willing to help them on their way to real rehabilitation services such that the teacher likewise understood that if they couldn't do the job and the principal couldn't do the job and their parents couldn't handle it, then the police were obliged to respond to calls - even if that led them to entering a classroom. This also never had to happen, but my willingness to do whatever it took to get the kids not just punished but their heads "fixed." Telling bullies directly that they have psychological problems is likewise not good advice, but the teacher should understand that counseling, juvenile detention, or having the bullies sent off to foster homes might also be the solution. Again, for someone in your shoes, this isn't just a caring response, but also a "and I'll be damned if I am going to put up with this kind of crap!" attitude.

yea call ghostbusters. . . bullybusters!!!! lol j/k

just beat the snot outta these kids for real!!!

Hey ther is a good way.It may be that there are many as you so just make a group of all and fight them . Or simply just ask your parents believe me they can advice you much more good then us.Bye for more talk contact me

Have you talked to a teacher, your parents? It's not a sign of weakness to get them to stop.

Bullies just pick on you because their self esteem is so bad that putting you down makes them feel better. You deserve to go to school and not have to worry about this.

The more you act like it's bothering you, the more they will pick on you. Some snappy comebacks sometimes help. Another way would be to get ahold of the bullies INDIVIDUALLY and ask them why they are being so ridiculous- just be honest. Or try to just laugh at them and say "You're silly!"

Living well is the best revenge.

I hope it gets better for you soon.

sorry to say this but your going to have to learn some self defense... back in middle school i look like an easy target (i knew some martial arts before i got picked on)so when some1 starts with me verbally I ignore but when i started getting shoved i nicely tell him to **** off. Lol that pisses em off.... well anyways when it got to a fight it only lasted about 20-30 secs i had him on the floor with out throwing a single punch. I had learned different grappling moves to put him in a vulnerable position after he was on the floor i just had my knee on his neck waiting for security or an administrator. after that the only people that picked on me where very few even verbally.

another way is to be around some friends have your friends look out for you or start being friends with the stronger people. also be friends with all of ur girls friends guys dont pick on another guy when there with a bunch of chicks

being a mother of a 10 year old boy(who is always usually the smallest in his class0 i know what you are going through. We had an incident where a much biigett boy was picking on my son so i immeditely called his mother. There is NO leniency whatsoever on bullying. Once it begins you need to let a parent or teacher no about it. It is not fair for you to have to run from the problem all of the time. And as for being 12 and having a girlfriend and not seeing her much, my advice to you is to get to the bottom of the problem first and then worry about other things. I always tell my kids if anyone picks on them to tell that person that they will have to deal with me. I absolutely do not tolerate this action. Good luck and please get someone else involved before you get hurt.

YOU MUST STAND UP TO ONE OF THEM.. 1ST RULE IF YOU CANT BREATH OR CANT SEE YOU CANT FIGHT.. THAT SAID.. NEXT TIME ON OF THESE BULLIES COMES UP TO YOU DONT WAIT.. SLUG HIM IN THE NECK ON THE SIDE OR IN THE EYE.. EVEN IF YOU GET YOUR *** KICKED THEY WILL LEAVE YOU ALONE AFTER AND GO ON TO SOMEONE WHO WILL NOT FIGHT BACK THIS WILL WORK.. GOOD LUCK..REMEMBER.. WHEN IN DOUGHT KNOCK EM OUT !!

Your parents are smarter than they look. I am a teen and this sounds like what old people would say, but I had some problems at school and they were very supportive of me and went to bat for me. Depending on what type of parents/grandparents whoever takes care of you, talk to them and see what they think.

Usually everyone says tell the teacher or someone but don't. as soon as they find out you snitched things will get worse. Stand up tho them! show them that you aren't scared. or throw a big party and don't invite them. find a way to make them jealous and they'll like you more

talk to parents and teachers. The bullies cant be bothered if they spend all their time in detention

You need to be more specific. How are these guys bullying you? Physically? Mentally? I hope you've told an adult. Never be afraid to tell a parent. If the call you a "tadle tale" you're not. A "tadle tale" is someone who tells on people just to get them in trouble but in this case you're doing it to stop them from being cruel to you.

Have you told all of your friends about these bullies? If you tell your friends maybe they can assit you with telling an adult or speaking to the bullies. Don't be ashamed to tell your friends. If they're really your friends they'll understand and want to help you.

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Learn how to fight and whoop their asses. That's the only way....well it's probably not the only way, but it's probably the quickest and most effective way. The only reason they're picking on you is, like you said, you're weaker and they know that you are not going to do anything about it.

have you tried going to someone in authority. also you need to rember they are bulling you because they are the ones who are weaker then you. you are much brighter then they are and that frightens them

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