Allan
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If your really care about your friend Heather, you should tell her the truth! Even if it hurts.
If you don't tell her now, she's going to find out eventually, and that would hurt more because you didn't let her know when you had the chance. She might even blame you for not telling her in the first place.
If you keep silent, it means that you are allowing this to go on. And you're tolerating his boyfriend and giving him opportunity to hurt her more.
As for Becca, you should talk to her. You're gonna have to come clean with this.
Well at least, that's what i think. But you know the situation better. So, best of luck. God Bless you. |
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earlthek
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I think about the only thing you could hope for here is that Heather sees this joker for what he really is: a two-timing scumbag! Everyone like that slips up...and it ends up catching them. As for Becca...it seems to me it should be up to her to tell Heather, since she was the one that had sex with Heather's boyfriend to begin with. You already know the boyfriend won't tell anything, because you've already said he's lied to Heather's face. This is an issue that has to be worked out for itself and ot by you. You're an innocent party in this instance, so I would try to stay as far away from it as you can. |
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risemcdankerson
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ya that other guys got the right idea |
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richbro
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THE TRUTH!
PRINT OUT YOUR QUESTION AND SHOW IT TO HEATHER!
LIFE WOULD BE MUCH SMOOTHER IF WE LIVED IT ACCORDING TO THE WAY WE WERE DESIGNED TO LIVE IT!
DON'T HAVE SEX UNTIL MARRIAGE! |
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YahooGuru2u
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Take care of yourself. You will find in life that people will get themselves into all sorts of messes. The sooner you learn how to let them without making it your business to straighten up their lives for them the better off you will be. Sounds like this guy is a loser. Also sounds like your friend NEEDS to not see it for now. As for your other friend that had sex with him, unless she was raped, it IS her fault also. People often times want to do what they want to do even if it is destructive and stupid. The true friends who try to save them from themselves end up being accused of puting their noses into business that is not theirs, or being judgemental. Just try to enjoy YOUR life and learn from the mistakes of your friends. Stay friendly and always available to listen, but not judgemental. If you do that they will seek you out when they need you, and love you for it. That's a lot better than trying to save them and having them hate you for it. |
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agony
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to ur fren love is much more impt than frendship n tell her will a thief goes to a police station and admit that he had commited a crime...?leave her alone...until da dae she get hurt she will then realise that frens r impt than relationship... |
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jasonb3271
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sounds like you are caught in the middle with this one... I would recommend always doing the right thing for your friend even if it costs you a friendship temporarily. I would tell becca that she needs to tell heather. If she doenst believe her , then she hopefully will learn later on that her boyfriend in a loser. The boyfriend will eventually do something to show his true colors. |
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ice_rose
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This sounds like a really tough situaion, but from experience, I've found that the truth is always the best thing to go with. It's going to be hard, but you should tell her that you care about her, and that's why you're telling her that her boyfriend has been lying. She needs to know. You sound like you care, so do what you think is right. She'll thank you in the end. |
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bgldberg19
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why don't you see if you can trick this guy john on the computer. Get him to admit he cheated, by acting like someone who is interested in a cheater, and then send a copy of the instant message to your friend heather. |
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magswimmergirl99
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That was really stuped of both of them! I think you have to tell an adult but tell them not to mention your name! She will never know and you will not feel like you are keeping something from her because it will help her in the long run! |
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Yea,what Mr. Woodchuck wrote.It"s a tough world out there.God bless |
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jewel
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Heather needs to learn this for herself. Just be supportive of her now and be there when she relieves what a scum he is. As for Becca, that is her problem. There is a word called no and therefore I feel it is her fault to sleep with John. That is where you have to step back. You are between a rock and a hard place and if you value both their friendships, you don't know anything. What kind of friend is Becca to Heather for going to John's house to begin with? Is she a worthy friend? You must decide that too, if Heather is more the friend to you maybe tell Heather because it sounds like Becca is a friend I would not want because that can be your boyfriend she is sleeping with next time. |
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Dr Denny
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Listen I have been John, so just let things work themselves out. They say love is blind. I got cheating in front of 30 people and I convinced my gf that it did not happen. Then once I convinced her I told her the truth. You are young, so just have fun while you can. go ahead and have sex with John also because I know that is what you really want. |
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ksuccubis
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if your frined did not want to have sex then that is rape. there are many forms of rape but if she did not want to it is rape no less. you need to have your friend call the cops and report his **** and let the process take course and tell your friend not to feel bad. its not her fault. |
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