Im sort of scared! help me!?

my parents had been fighting all day and my dad pushed my mother out of the house and all hell broke lose! my mothers father was cursing at my father and my mothers friend was comforting my mother while she was outside sitting on the sidewalk crying. all of this was happening right in front of myeyes. I can't take all of this pressure along with all of this other little stuff happening on the side. whatshould i do?

Hi it must be awful for you but sometimes grown ups act in really silly ways. Try as hard as you can to keep out of it, do you have a aunt or cousin you can talk to? Once everything has calmed down quietly explain to your mom how much this is all upsetting you. If you are really suffering or feel that you are in physical danger ask a teacher at school to help you. and don't worry...it will probably make you a stronger person.

Wait till everybody is calmed down, then talk to your dad, and then to your mom to see if you can help them a little to settle their dispute.

Good Luck :)

find some place else to go for a while. when u come back it will probably all be over.

Tell these adults that they need to act like adults. Make sure your parents know that their fighting bothers you and how it makes you feel.

You know your parents--try to take an approach that will work on them. Some parents respond to guilt, in which case you will want to emphasize how horrible this experience has been. Use whatever tools you have to express yourself effectively.

Also, if your father physically pushed your mother, you might want to ponder your own safety--it sounds a bit abusive to me.

wow i wish i did know something that could help you out but i dont .I feel really bad for you and i would also be scared ,stick together as much as you can ,try to talk to both of them and tell them that it is scaring you .bE STRONG AND maybe things will get better with time,
i am afraid that all i can advice is hang in there .and dont get too depressed, thats when crazy things get into your head,
the time will come when you get independent and have your own life.Work towards that.just look after yourself.Good luck

get ur a** out of that house and go somewhere else till things r settled ... u don't have 2 take this shi* ... GO NOW!

Well you can start by telling yourself that I will never treat the person I love with such disrespect. People handle stress in different ways. Unfortunately some resort to physical violence instead of open communication. There is nothing magical to be said that can make the pain go away. Some might say it is adult business, but there is nothing "Adult" about that type of behavior. I can not say that it is your fathers fault, nor can I say that it is your mothers fault, but I can say it is both. The cause of the argument does not justify the violent behavior. When things simmer down, communicate your feelings to both of your parents, calmly tell them how you felt having to watch. Now what you mean by the "Other little stuff happening on the side". That is as Vague as Vague can be. I have no clue as to what this "Other little stuff" is, so I can not be of any help there. Good Luck

Maybe you could go to a friend or a relatives place for a while. When things have calmed down talk to your parents and let them know how this made you feel. If you are scared of your father atleast talk to your mother and let her know how much it scared you. She needs to know. It may help her make some decisions.

not a whole lot really. my parents use to fight n stuff. they've been apart for 8 years now. its not an easy road to go down. focus on yourself and use these tI'mes to model yourself to not be that way. find the good in life while you can. im sorry you had to go through that.

When I was young my dad used to drink. I remember the fights too. I also was scared. I never really had any friends stay over cause you never would know when he would come home like that. Now that 20 yrs have past by I have a closer relationship to my parents than I ever did when i was young. I understand things can't always be the way we would like them. I spent time with my Grandma on the weekends when I could or with friends. I know this isn't the answer you wanted. But maybe I gave you a little bit of hope that things will get better. Just be strong. Even though it's tough. Sometimes you just have to be more adult about things than the way your parents are acting. I made it thru, you can too. Good luck.

I am really sorry to hear this. I had similar problems growing up and nobody at all to talk to. Getting some help from someone is what you need and should do now. This is called domestic abuse or violence. If your father hits, pushes, shoves, or hurts your mother, she should be reporting this to the police. You are scared because this is really scary to kids. Parents, man and wife,man and girlfriend are not allowed to push, shove, hit one another, anymore than unrelated people are allowed to do that. Often drinking is involved, particularly if there is a fight going on all day.

You won't get the final answer here, but some suggestions. My answer is the minimum you should do now. Find a neighbor, teacher, or other really trustworthy person and tell that person just what you told us. Being there on the scene they should be able to help you. Your mother needs help and so do you. You have a right to help and should ask for that help. If cannot find a person, check out the phone book for places to call. Usually you will find different HOTLINES in the front of the phone book. Look for domestic violence, abuse, things like that. Also, protective services for children and for women. They should help or be able to guide you to the right people to help.

Many of these are open 24/7, meaning you can call them at night or in the daytime, seven days a week.
Your mother has her father and friend to help. You seem to be left out because too often people do not know how much this scares kids. You need to take the steps necessary to get the help if nobody does it for you. Don't wait another day. Just do it because these things never just go away by themselves.

... And if things ever get really scary, if you get hit or are afraid of being hit, CALL 911. Do that if your father is hitting your mother too. CALL 911 and tell the operator what is going on, where you live and how scared you are. They will ask a few questions and send a car out to find out what's going on. Tell the operator if you have fear of being hurt, but I hope it NEVER gets to this. I just put this in because sometimes only the police can stop an argument and do it safely for everyone.

God Bless and Good Luck. You DO have friends here for sure.

if your a young child you can do nothing. if you parents will listen tell them how you feel and ask them if they could get some kind of counseling and dont forget to pray for the strenth to endure these scarey times.

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