Johndabr
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Yes, it is very normal, it part of the instinct that drove you to have a child, but what you are going through right now is part of the long-term process of letting go. Unless the mother rejects the child, it will usually bond closer to her than the father, but the male children will eventually start to, for lack of a better explanation, leave the protection of the skirt. I think three is a little early for this, so I would advise to not try and pull him back, that might have long term consequences, but do try and be there for him when he does want to be with you and make sure he knows that both of you are ok to be with.
John B. |
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40andgoing
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It is normal, but bad for the kid. He cannot be a mamma's boy. Besides it is essential that he and his father build a bond.
I love to think that my daughter loves me more than she loves her fatehr, but, I'm so glad that the 2 have a great relationship.
If you love somebody, set them free! |
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nightevisions
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We used to play a game. I would hug one of my kids and say "Only Mommy's" and then my husband would hug them and say "Only Daddy's". My son would always say "Only Daddy's" and my oldest daughter would say "Only Mommy's" and our youngest, another daughter, would say "I'm both of yours."
We always knew it was a game. But I don't think you should discourage him from sitting with his Daddy. It will cause a lot of resentment later. |
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crackerboy
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We all like to feel valued and sometimes we compete for our children's attention. It is normal to feel this way but to act on it is something else. Putting your son in the middle like this can put a strain on your relationship with your husband and this could eventually effect your son if you two were to split. If I were, I would note some differences between mom and dad and acknowledge what you are both good at. Questions of love should be proclaimed as equal. Be careful of the environment you create because you could end up creating some future relationship problems for him |
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bendione
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very very normal! You just want your child to love you more than anyone else, and you want to be his favourite! Just as you feel about him!!
Don't worry, As long as he's cute, you'll feel this way....the moment he misbehaves, you'll be more than happy to give his father some credit for him! |
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cy ko tic
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That's a bit abnormal. You should do all you can to help him connect with the child--you shouldn't need to compete with him.
It's not that you love your son too much--it's that you are insecure and have self esteem issues. |
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byderule
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Stop messing with the kids head ,let him sit where he wants ,jelousy or possesiveness can be very ugly.
and the kid is far to young to be subjected to this.
these are feelings better applied to adults but better not applied at all.
let the kid love who he wants,
you should be ashamed of yourself
say 100 hailmary´s ,go and confess in church whatever ,but dont try to manipulate the kid emotions,that is evil. |
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chiefof nothing
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A little jealousy with parents over young children seems normal..I was when my kids were breast fed..I wanted that kind of closeness-affirmation I was important too. BTW we all grew out of it... |
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Rachel
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It sounds like you have a pretty low self esteem to me. Could you love 1 child more than another? Don't ask that of a child. If you are at home all day with your child perhaps he is just excited to see his dad. Maybe you could all sit together on a couch. He is your husbands child too. Don't try to turn his own son against him |
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Wabbitt1970
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I think that you are being very selfish and childish.
A childs development relies on both partners to have equal amounts of attention and love. If you carry on like this then you are in serious danger of affecting how your child views males.
I suggest you grow up and think about your child, and not yourself. |
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trumpetwcmd
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How pathetic are you!
Without close, early contact with the father children grow up malajusted and insecure |
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