Is this good or bad?

Im having problems... im actually really young, my mom says that I act wayy too old for my age and that sometimes she wishes I acted my age. I think part of the reason i act this way is because Im really tall and i look 4 years older than I really am... Do you think this is normal or not? Plz say why you think so... thank you so much! I need someone else's opinion on this! Oh by the way I'll give you a hint... im between the age of 10 and 11 ( I kow thats not very much leeway but still...)
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I dont sleep around or do drugs or anything bad like that...

It depends on what your mom is referring to when she makes that comment. All people develop at their own pace so what's normal or not really can't be figured. Girls almost always develop, emotionally and physically faster than boys. Whether thats a good thing or not could be argued. The problem is that girls who develop physically (before their age) usually end up with boys that are (Mentally) above their age and that leads to problems because the girl is over her head and easily taken advantage of. Hope this helps :)

throw a gut busting , tear jerking , kicking and screaming in the grocery store tantrum. then she will appreciate how you behave now.

Well I used to have the same problem. It wasn't because of being tall or looking older. It was the way I grew up.
Look at other people your age. See how they act. Don't take into consideration the disrespectfulness many may show. But watch how they have fun and what entertains them. Do any of these things entertain them? If so make a list.
tell your Mom that you watched other 10-11 years olds to see the differences of how they act and you act. Let her know you are trying to please her but these are the only things you agree with that others do. Also show her what you don't agree with. Tell her that you are your own person. (be very nice and gentle) Let her know that you have your intrests but you will try to find some that are not quite as mature. See if there is a compromise. But don't compromise who you are. Tell her you enjoy the way you are and it makes you special. If she still wants to you act a little younger, ask her to do activites with you that she finds age appropriate. Maybe you can have fun together.

u r still young. act ur self dont try 2 be someone u arent. but ur probably perfectly normal.

I'm not sure, but i'll take a guess.
I find that when things happen to me, i learn different things and take different lessons from what has happened to me. Maybe you know what you should learn from a situation when it happens to you, meaning you have learned a lot from what has happened to you.
You also write very clearly and are obviously smart, so why not speak how you feel?
Maybe it's just difficult for your mom to realize you're growing up, getting smarter, and will want to have more intelligent conversations with her. Mothers tend to have a hard time letting go of their "little ones" and get nostalgic for the times when their kids used to rely entirely on them.
Please be yourself.

Just be the best person you can and everything else will be ok.

I think it is very common. Visually,people see a teenager. Do you feel different than your friends in a way other than height? Are you able to relate to them on subjects like school, parents, boys, etc.? This much I do know: everybody develops mentally, physically, sexually in different stages, different times. Two kids from the same household can be way different in development. Eventually it all evens out, BUT this is a very hard situation for parents to deal with at your age. they want to do anything in their power to get this to stop. Do you have a school councelor that you could talk to?? I wish that I was able to bring you 15 years into the future to look back at yourself now, and you'd have a better understanding of what's going on. Don't feel guilt over this. You have not alot of control,if any, on what's happening inside of you.
Just glad my daughter is still 5!!! :)
Go easy on your parents, though. They speak out of love and protection, and like it or not, it is their job.Someday you may understand, but know that the understanding comes only with age and experience. Live for today.

normal yes but keep it ALL in check you still need to enjoy life and friends now later ther will less friends than you think AND FOR GODS SAKE NO FLIRTING IT IS DANGEROUS AND IRREVERSABLE

Well it i snot bad if you feel comfortable with it. But still maybe you should try to enjoy the things that you'll only have at your age, you'll have the age to live things of people 4 years older than you. It doesn't matter how old or young you look the improtant thing is to do what you want and feel... methinks

That depends on what she means...how do you act older? Ask yourself that question. Talk more to your mom about it. Believe me, one day you will grow up and say "mom was right all those times"....I did....

My daughter is just like you, she acts more much more than her age, Sometimes its irritating cos i don't want her to loose her childhood fun.

I'm sure your mom is saying that because she wants to protect you. If you look as if you're 14 or 15 years old, then guys are probably percieving you as a teenager. And because you're so young that presents a problem.

I think it is probably a good idea to act your age, or on the flip side, just don't try to act like a teenager that is 14 or 15. There are ways to act mature, without biting off more than you can chew.

You do need to be young and have fun. You mom might think that because the stuff you know or the way you act.
Its ok to know to much about life but dont let that get in the way of being young.

hey,it's good to know that you dont think like your age..that's not a problem..and i'll tell you..you are a mature person. tell your mom that you can be independent with regards to your decision because you know what's right or wrong already.. tell her not to worry okay?

geez thats crazy, your honestly that old...i was thinking you were atleast 13 or 14...i wouldnt do anything about it...when you get a lil older, some guys might actually respect the fact that your more mature and its almost a guarantee that you'll get further in life economically and socially if your more mature and grown up...but dont forget to have fun, dont be serious all the time..be sure to live life, have friends, and be a kid.....alright thats about the most sentimental advice ive ever given so you should really feel special...good luck!

Its not a bad thing or even a good thing. The reason why you look so old could be your height. Believe me there is wrong of being taller either.. Just be yourself and enjoy life, life is to short to worry about little things like that.

its not bad but just be a kid
i act older than i am too
but thats when i dance
so just be a kid while u can

Enjoy your youth while you have it- turn around and it will be gone!

Just BE yourself- don't "act"

take your time to grow up! i don't know what kind of behavior your mom means. do you fool around with a lot of guys? if that's the case, then i understand your mom being worried because you have plenty of time to do that later. if you do all that now then sooner or later you will realize that you missed your childhood.

GIRL YOU NEED TO BE YOUR SELFAT ALL TIMES BUT NEED TO ACT YOUR AGE!!!1

I think it is a good thing because your mom may not understand you and this is a good way of telling her that you don't need her to baby you any more. I have the same exact problem you do, my Dad just does not understand Me!

People always believe that they are right and are doing good, from their own perspective. Even the most evil person from our perspective believes he or she is doing right. Otherwise, they wouldn't be doing what they are doing! No one holds a false belief. No one says, 'I believe this', and add, 'but I know it is false.' They always believe they are right. Even a person who says they are evil, believes this is right and good. If we believe that people are evil, we may become frightened of them and react to them unpleasantly, and they in turn will behave worse to us.

Likewise, if we believe that people or things are absolutely good, then we treat them as Gods or angels and, clearly we do not react to them as they really are because no one is a god or an angel.

When we believe that things are basically good, then we begin to understand them better. If we think someone is evil, we will imagine that we cannot influence them or we will try to influence from our belief-value that they are bad. This will never be effective, because they believe they are good, and doing what is right, so they will never relate to our belief that they are bad. They will simply believe that we are bad! By believing they do, even bad things, from a good intention we can better understand them and begin to influence them, because we take the trouble to understand them and how they think, rather than to fight them head on in terms of the values of good and bad.

This is a key concept. We should set our seeds according to the soil!

Seek only obtaining a result, a decision, a change, not to win or lose.
When we seek to win, we become anxious about the result. We may procrastinate and do nothing to win because we might lose. The effective person, because they can happily win or lose, and because they seek a result, they do not fear asking for what they want or doing what they think will lead to their goal. This does not mean that the effective person doesn't want to win, or sometimes lose. It means that they know that without getting a decision, taking action or non-action, that they are losing already. Losing is the normal state. Therefore, it cannot be good or bad, it's where we start off from. So by taking action or non-action or getting the decision they have nothing to lose, and can only gain, if not on this occasion, then in the future. For example, if we want the afternoon off from work, we do not have the afternoon off from work (Otherwise we wouldn't want it, but would have it!). When we ask, we might get a 'No', but that is where we are now. That isn't a loss, but it is the gain of useful information. And taking action, by asking, is the only way we can succeed.

Here we have an irony, that by seeking to win, we increase our likelihood of losing.

Believe there is no failure or success, only feedback, knowledge
This belief links to the previous one. The Effective person does not fear failure, because he or she does not believe in failure or success. They obtain feedback. This does not mean that the Effective person doesn't want to succeed. It means that they will succeed because they seek feedback. This leads to the next belief.

Act with integrity and honesty.
One of the great secrets of a successful and happy life if to act with integrity and honesty. When we were little children we were told we should be honest, and we were told this meant telling the truth. We were given this simple meaning because we were too young and inexperienced to fully understand the success technique of honesty and integrity. Of course, telling the truth got us into a lot of trouble. Even adults will say, "Well, I was telling the truth. It was right."

Of course, telling the truth is important and is a big part of integrity and honesty. But it clearly means more than this, and telling the truth is not an essential part. Moral qualities, that is, ways of living our life successfully, are good. And sometimes telling the truth is bad, as when this causes great upset in the other person for no good reason. This is not acting with honesty and integrity! Although it is better to tell the truth, it is not always better to tell it! Some people are verbally incontinent and will tell you everything, even personal things, and this is not behaving with integrity and honesty.

Although no one can properly define these concepts, we all know what they mean. By putting aside our childish definitions, we can understand and live these concepts and reap all the benefits.

Do something else, or stop doing nothing, if things are not to their preference.
When the feedback or knowledge that the Effective person gains is not to his or her preference, then they do something else. They do something, if they are doing nothing, or they change what they were doing, or do nothing. They know, 'If you always do what you have always done, then you will always get what you always got.' They do not believe that things will turn out right. They realise that they need to change to get a different result. 'If you always do what you have always done, you will always get what you always got!" To believe differently, is crazy.

View ideas and thoughts from various viewpoints.
We all know that we are supposed to view things from the other's point of view as well as our own. But how many of us do it? As children we are limited to our own viewpoint and we cannot see the viewpoints of others. And when we grow up, we often do not realise that we have progressed far enough to think about things from various viewpoints.

If we learn this skill, our ability to influence others and to avoid upsets will have increased manyfold.

Have a clear idea of objectives
The effective person thinks out what he or she wants. They have a clear idea of what they want to achieve. They do not seek to gain what they want in one fell swoop. They know they will get feedback, and they act or not act in order to produce a result. They repeat these actions until they attain their goal or objective. 'If they didn't know where they were going, they'd usually end up somewhere else!'

Believe mind and Body are part of the same system
This might sound metaphysical, but many people, if not all of us, are to some degree not closely in touch with our bodies and our minds. To feel better mentally, we might look to improving the body. When improving the body, we might take care to care for our minds. Over indulgence in one or the other will not help either.

We assume that there is a correspondence between what we call mind and what we call body. So when there are certain things occurring in the mind, there are corresponding events occurring in the body; and when there are certain events occurring in the body there are corresponding ones occurring in the mind.

We need to clarify the above. It is not only a scientific statement. It is not saying only that when we think there are certain physical-chemical events occurring in the brain at the same time. It is, rather, also a personal development statement. So when we are worried about something, it is not just that we are having certain thoughts, but that we are having certain feelings in the body, which, should we bother to do so, we can experience. For example, if we are concerned about what we should do about something we have certain thoughts which we may or may not be able to articulate, and we have certain feelings in our bodies, which we may or may not be aware of at the time. Put simply, successful personal development occurs when both bodily and mental experiences are dealt with. We have in mind here such techniques as focussing and six-step reframing

i think that if you act mature you are mature and your parents should be happy about it.

i used to do that but now I only act smart around other adults. i still act like a kid when i am around kids. Yes it is normal.

actually the more time goes on the faster young people mature, this is not abnormal, alot of people your age have a similiar problem, and there parents also give them a hard time about it. You have to realize that you are her baby and will always be...

Becareful with what kind of attention you draw to your quickly maturing body, and remind yourself of the problems and consequences that come with having sex. It's actually a very dangerous sport, and should be shared with someone you love, and who loves you. Take a moment to make yourself realize that boys don't mature as fast as girls do, and they are selfish for the most part, if you want to date wait a couple more years, but don't shy away from boys completely... your not a hermit and you can always socialize, guys will respect you more and treat you better if you are a classy girl, with confidence...

And I suspect you have alot of confidence or you would not have asked this question.

Act however your want to act as long as it doesn't hurt you or other people!

Yes it is perfectly normal so don't worry. Some girls mature quicker than others. I was about your age when I really started to grow up. Please don't worry it is normal.

Since your so tall, people just assume you are older which in turn causes you to act older. Your mother, just as most parents, doesn't want to see you grow up too fast. There's nothing wrong with being mature "acting" for your age, but just remember to listen and respect your parents because they know best. God bless you!!

Usually, moms know what is best to their children. I am sure that she wants you to be YOURSELF, and not playing roles. Because: Being "just" yourself and not acting like you where somebody else make you feel safe and free:-) No one else can learn you your role in life. You must find it yourself, by natural development and refinement of your "role in life".

Sincerely
"Just me".

I don't think it is good for you to act older than u r because when you actually get to be the age that you are acting now you will be bored with yourself. So please, please, please act your age. Stay as young as you can now cause the older you get the more responsibilities you get, and believe me you r not ready for adult responsibilities.

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