sassyone
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make a pot of coffee, or get some ice cream and just sit down and talk to her...bring up "old times" and how great they were then ask her if she knows how things changed cause you can't see where...like you're asking her advice, mom's like that stuff. she probably thinks that since you have your own life now that you don't need her, and all mothers like to be needed. However you decide to handle it, good luck! |
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Dr. Ruth Less
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her little girl is growing up and having her own life. Mom i scared give her a break, just be there for her. (maybe she's menopausal too) |
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wgl
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know that a soft answer turns a way wrath. another thing is take time to listen one to the other then discuss it
like moms and daughters should. look on the good side of a person and look at the heart.try placing your self in her place as she should you.
if you remain calm she will calm down |
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Harley
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How old is she? Maybe she's going through menopause. You may have to be a bit forgiving if that's the case.
But don't give up. Believe me... she needs you as much as you need her. You guys need to figure out a way to talk things through. |
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crackerboy
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She may see your new freedom and feel a little jealous as she feels tied down by responsibility. A simple talk with her may not help but it's worth a shot. Whatever you do, do not mention jealously!!!
Start your conversation one day by asking if her if she has any regrets in life. Let her bring it out. Leave your life out of it and the problems you are having. She may come to some realization through talking. Let it be an open talk for her to express her feelings. Ask her questions and sound genuinely interested. |
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gyrferret
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She's going through something that just really depresses her and she's venting out her anger on you. You are probably also just going through mood swings and stuff like that. It'll all turn out for the better, just talk. Small talk, like "how was your day" is best... it works with my mother... and yeah... you'll be fine, just tough it out... |
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mckayla
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I'll just say to you what I say to everyone who still has thier mother. I lost my mother when I was 15 from a lung disease (my father died, too when I was 14). She was my BEST friend in the whole world. she was the only one who ever beleived in me. you should do whatever it takes to repair your friendship with your mother, because (coming from experience), you never know when the last time will be you have the chance to tell her you love her! My last words to my mom were, "I hate you". we got into a fight the night before she died. I would give anything to have her back, to call her up and go to lunch, etc, etc. CHERISH YOUR MOTHER!!!!! |
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dpatin@sbcglobal.net
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Just remember that no one int the world will ever love you unconditionally as your mother. She will always give you the best- as she knows,advise because she has a vested intrest to do so-your happiness. Mine used to tell me "One day you will be looking for me with a flashlight in the daylight" |
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pk1
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try approaching this slowly
i had the same problem once
first try doing something with her that SHE likes
for example
my mom loves watching DVDs
and maybe if that doesnt work
which it usually does work
wait
first if you have spare money you use to buy ur own things
take that out and buy something that she wants but is too "savey" to buy it...
if that doesnt work
try not speaking to her for a day or two
and after a while
shell crack and say its all her fault
but if ur teenaged
dont worry
its a phase of life
im in it rite now
and its called
"teen stress"
caused by overworking, stress, and tiredness...etc.
hope ive been helpful |
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Shaz22
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All you need to do is talk to her. Say every thing you just wrote! No doubt she has no idea that she is making you feel this way, and wen she does then things will improve :) |
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talithamayfield
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First of all she is your mom and will love you no matter what. You are her daughter and will love her no matter what. Do your best to try and understand her and try to help her understand you. Communication is key, even though it is not easy. It is probably no ones fault, it is just life. Show her respect because she is your mom and you only have one. |
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Jason
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You're both growing and break downs in communications will happen. My advice is to keep cool and don't get angry. At an appropriate time. You want to sit down and talk to her. Don't worry about who did what or this and that Focus on what you're feeling and look for the deeper reason why your feeling that way. The real reason won't be anything anyone said or did. |
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brownsugar22_01
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The best thing in this situation is to talk to her. Sometims talking helps, or if you feel you cant talk to her, then write her a letter telling her everything that you have told us, and tell her that you love her, and that you are really getting hurt abt whats going on. I hope every thing works out with you. Good luck |
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waytooeasy67
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Maybe you and your mom expect too much from each other. After all, you are older and can make your decisions for yourself. Then too, maybe your mom is going through a mid-life crisis. Cool it -- give the woman some space and more than likely things will work out in the end. |
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