♥tendersighs♥
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Did you tell her that shes under age for smoking? And excuse me, but just who is the parent in your home? Her? It sounds like it. What you do as adults is none of her childish business. When she is 18 then there will be a talk about her smoking in the house. Where is your backbone?
And when she asks again why her UNDERAGE self cant smoke in the house...tell her "BECAUSE I SAID SO!!!!"
YOU pay the bills, YOU rent/own the home, If she wants a say in anything then she can get her butt out there, get a job, pay her fair way and then maybe you will hear what she has to say. Also tell her she's grounded for smokeing in the first place.
And as far as her acting like a smart butt...she must not be to smart. People know more now about the harm of smoking then when we all did when we started. If she was all that smart, she would'nt have started in the first place.
So Dad, who rules your house? Where are your rules? Let alone the state laws? Shes a minor.
Your 15 year old little baby needs a grounding. Shes no where even close to being or acting like an adult. Her even asking you that shows it.
And as far as you people above go....I drive a car. I have driven a car all my sons life. Does that mean his 13 year old self can drive a car, too? So take smoking and drinking out of it...whats your answer now? Should a child be able to do adult things just because mom and dad do them? Think about it. |
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Harley
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Neither do I come to think about it...
What kind of double standard is that? |
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Kamran the Great ©
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why would a 15-year-old be smoking anyway???
that to one side, though, she does have a point. |
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Margarette
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It's a classic example situation. Why is she not allowed to smoke when you and your wife do? Is it any less unhealthy for you than it would be for her?
You can use the "We are adults" reasoning, but as she sees herself as becoming one soon (15yr-olds are like that) it may have little effect.
If you really want her not to smoke, or smoke in the house at this point it would require a behavior change on the part of you and your wife as well. |
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kpaddack2
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I am a smoker, too. Although I don't think you should smoke in the house to protect her health, the reason she can't smoke in the house is the same reason you shouldn't let her drink in the house: because it's illegal at her age. When she's 18, she can smoke wherever she wants, if she hasn't quit by then. |
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hodgey1972
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erm ,yes you two have both smoked in front of her all her life probably increasing the risks of cancer,well done you two.oh you two should stop smoking in the house.and im a smoker |
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vanessaoz
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maybe you and your wife should lead by example and either stop smoking or smoke outside. telling your daughter one thing and you both doing another, isnt right. i would be questioning you too on why you do it and she cant. |
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laragans757
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HedzRed has a point. You are asking her to do as you say, not as you do...
You can tell her because you are the parents and those are the rules of your house which she has to follow until she is 18. You can tell her that she is underage and can't legally smoke and you won't condone the behavior for that reason. You can tell her that you don't want her to encourage an addiction to cigarettes.
In the end, she's only following the example you set for her. |
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MommaToldMeNotToCome
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Obviously your daughter does not have your permission to smoke so you are refusing to sanction her habit by allowing her to smoke in your presence. This is called burying your head in the sand and refusing to acknowledge a situation that is out of your control.
If you don't want to run the risk of your daughter setting the house on fire one of these nights by stashing her lighted, forbidden cigarette in a less than safe place, you'd better rethink your position here. I know from personal experience that you cannot force her to stop smoking, so it's time for you to throw in the towel.
I suggest setting up some guidelines. These could include things like: you have to pay for your own cigarettes; only in your room; not in front of your grandmother; or whatever fits YOUR program and YOUR lifestyle. If your daughter agrees to abide by these rules, she can smoke in the house. Good luck with the new regime, however it turns out! |
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Jo
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hmmmm,My answer to that would be 1. Because it is your house,you pay the bills.You have the right to smoke in the house if you want! 2.Why are you allowing a 15 yr old child to smoke period? |
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rwerfelman
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Hey Stupid!!!, It's illegal for a 15 year old to smoke. If your buying them for her that means not only are you breaking the law, your a loser. |
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hedzred
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I don't blame HER? Why do you smoke in the house? Especially if your daughter is in there!!!??? |
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mia_bia82
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?????????? Last I checked you had to be 18 anyway, and it's your house, so as the adult you can do whatever you please in your house. Is she paying the mortgage, electric bill, car insurance, etc.??? That's why. |
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columbia
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you could tell her shes too young. when shes 18 she can.
or.....
QUIT smokin inside!
passive smoking is worse than ordinary smoking!
think of your daughters health. |
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its me
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mabey its time to quit smoking not only for youand your husbands sake but for hers also.set a good example.if you wont do that than i would tell her that as soon as she starts paying rent she can smoke in the house. |
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maggiemaye
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doesnt make any sense calling the kettle are we?it doesnt really matter, she'll make up for it somewhere else.
either way it's a do&die situation |
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