Granny Fran
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I'm sorry about your loss. I lost my older brother last year, and my parents several years ago. The pain does lessen with time, but it always stays with you in a way.
The best thing to do would be to join a grief counseling group to be around other people who have suffered a similar loss. They will be able to share with you and help you through this. It helps to keep busy and move on with your life, remembering the happy times you had with your Grandmother.
Here's a couple of links to sites that have info on how to cope with grief
http://www.alexandrakennedy.com/
http://dmoz.org/Health/Mental_Health/Grief,_Loss_and_Bereavement/Personal_Pages/ |
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Craptacular Wonderment
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When my grandpa past away when I was young I became depressed.. (that's just not right for a 10 ye old)..what helped me then was visiting his gravesite and talking..I believed he could hear me, and soon I told him "I'm not going to cry anymore".. and I felt more peaceful.
But when my other grandfather passed away, 7 years ago, I happened to be the one who fed him his last meal, "Cream of Mushroom Soup" he was a cancer sufferer as well,..and I was really sad for a long time...I place flowers on his and my grandmothers grave, and since he was well known in the community as a housemover, I meet people all the time that knew him and we reminisce about him and his life...I like keeping his memory alive by hearing about what other people thought of him.
As far as not being depressed.. just know that your granny would have wanted you to be happy, and would be in tears if she saw you hurting like this because of her. I know it's hard to move forward when you miss the past so much, and she was obviously a wonderful lady...and she would still want only happiness for you. |
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linty_bunny
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i know how you feel but after a few months you learn to live with it of course there are always times you think about her but try not to mourn her death instead try to celebrate her life |
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Domenique
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I HOPE YOU GET THROUGH THIS AND ALL THE BEST OF LUCK TO YOU |
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shortienene
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I'm sorry to hear about your grandmother, Cancer is such a horrible way to loose someone. I lost my dad in 1992 to cancer. The pain never does go away,you learn to live with it. I still really miss my dad. But I realise that he is better off where he is rather than suffering any more. I know that my father could not cope with relying on someone else, They maybe sick but they still have their dignity.My dad always had a favourite rose, so when he passed away, i bought that rose and I know by how well the rose is actually growing that my dad is looking after his favourite rose for me, so that I can look at how beautiful it is and remember the how he loved me just like his favourite rose. |
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buckwheat
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the pain never goes completely away , in the past 20 years I lost my Father, 2 sisters to cancer , a brother to suicide and my mother to kidney failure my grandmother died of old age she was 101 years old and I still miss them to this day , I go to their grave sites at least twice a year |
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Just a Guy
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God Bless You. |
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sunny_kle
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Some of the ideas to keep hr memory alive:
1. Collect all her photographs that u can find (from ur relatives) and put it in a special album.
2. Find out how u can help elderly people in ur area who might be suffering from cancer.
U cannot control what has passed. U can only control ur present to build a better future. |
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GRUMPY
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I am so very sorry for your lose. But try to think of her being in a far better place and that she is thinking of you daily. She is no longer suffering and actually is in perfect health now. |
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rest_in_peace_03_the_intimidator
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i was close to my aunt and then she was murderd i didnt even get a change to say im sorry or goodbye,we got into a fight, stuff was said on both are parts; didnt speak for 3 months and then they found her body in a fild beat to death. yea talk about suffering from bad depression and guilt i missed her so much: [ did you get to say good by to your grandmother? yes,i hope this is your answer. belive me i know how you feel how much you miss her but shes gone and life goes on you never get over it but time has a way of healing its self. i love the burning of the candle idea to remember her. my aunts killer(s) still walk the very streets,free! they got away with it : [ so it seams, no clues to go on the rain washed all the eveidents clean someday we will catch her killer. anyways, every year on the anniversary of her death we (my family) get together and pass out flyers about her case,we meet at the cemetary to leave flowers and then go to dinner the first few years were the hardest,here it is 5 years later the pains still their,but we now remember the good times we had with are aunt,friend,sister daughter ect... remember the good times you had, how lucky you were to have each other. |
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Nature Gal
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Get a special candle and light it to her memory. |
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gordis
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Remember that this life is only for a short while and you will see her again one day. Be thankful for the time you had with her and know that she is in a better place with no pain or suffering. |
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yeoj_90
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my grandmother died too.well actually just last year. and just like you i miss her terribly!! but i'm trying to cope up now. my advice is that you can cherish her memories by thinking happy thoughts you and her shared together, just the little things (and don't cry cause i assume that is a happy memory not a sad one so wipe those off!!)and i'm sure that you treasure those memories with all your heart. and i think that you may need some kind of retreat house so that you can find your inner peace again,some place to relax and just... and trying to accept your current situation. all i want to say is even though you can't see her anymore doesn't mean she's gone, what you can do is pick up yourself and dust it off day by day, little by little and.... goodluck!! on your healing |
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Vahid
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Sorry to hear about your loss.... I am sure she must have loved you just as much. Would she not be upset to see you the way you are when she look down from the heaven?
Think about all the good times shared between you too, and keep those alive, that way she will always be with you. |
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