Sandylynn
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Some of these people really don't have your best interests at heart, telling you to run away, yell, demand, cry. That doesn't get you what you want, and it doesn't help you learn how to deal with the real world, who don't really care if you're having a bad day or not. Not knowing you or your parents, I can only speak from my years of experience, raising my two kids to adulthood (with NO bloodshed!). When my teenaged daughter yelled at me, it did not make me want to give in or get all warm & fuzzy. It made me clamp down and cut her off, sending her to her room, often with a lot less than before (like being grounded for sassing). The best way to deal with parents who have clamped down on you is to find out why they are holding you back. Do they have a reason for not trusting you? Have you done something to make them clamp down on your freedom? If you're too young and you want to do things that only older kids are doing, they are trying to protect you from what could be a very bad situation. They have experience, that's what makes them know what to do. No, parents aren't perfect. We have screwed up lots of times. But, we remember what it was like to be your age, and all the feelings that go with it. That hasn't changed over the years. Feelings are still feelings, no matter how long ago we were kids. When you become a parent, you want to protect your kid from all the nasties that are out there, especially other kids who we have NO control over. We don't know what kind of morals other kids have been raised with, or even IF they have any morals. So, us parents have the tendancy to hold you kids just a little too much sometimes. Even though we know that we have to gradually give you your freedom, the process is sometimes painful for us to see, especially when we see you act in a way that brings too many memories back for us. It's like watching a train wreck. You know what's gonna happen if you don't warn someone to throw the switch on the track, but sometimes the wreck has to happen to fix a bigger problem. That's why some parents let their kids get thrown in jail, even though everything inside them wants to just hold them close and save them from harm. It's better that they learn some hard lessons before things get really bad. So, it really bites, being a parent sometimes. Try to think of what your parents have to put up with. Maybe changing places with them for a day will help you see what they have to put up with on a daily basis. It's not just off to work, then come home and put your feet up & yell at the kids for not getting their chores done. It's more than that. Many kids say they can't wait till they get to be 18 and free. Guess what? With freedom comes RESPONSIBILITY. You are then responsible for EVERYTHING you do & say. One person said it very well...enjoy being a kid for as long as you can. You're getting your eats, heats and everything else for nothing. Out in the real world, when you need a dentist, you have to pay boo-coo bucks just to pull your tooth out, let alone get a filling. Same thing for when you get sick. Just one antibiotic pill can cost over $10.00 and you'll need on the average of 10 pills to get better. And that doesn't even add in the cost of seeing the doctor, which is $60.00, where I live. What I would suggest, little one, is learn to listen a little more, learn to help a little more, and after a while they just might loosen their hold on you. When they can see that you're showing signs of growing up and taking responsibility, they'll give you more freedom. But, don't blow it by taking advantage of their trust. Once you have it, losing it would take you that much longer to get it back. Also, if you ask them how you can help a little more around the house, it would make a big impact on how they treat you in the future. When all you give them is attitude, that's all you'll get back, along with a very limited life-style. Give them what they want, and eventually you'll get what you want. It's a give and take situation. When I saw that my kids got their chores done, along with their schoolwork, I was more inclined to give them all the freedom that their age would allow. Give it a try. You've got nothing to lose and everything to gain. After your parents pick themselves off the floor after hearing you ask to help, they'll start looking at you very differently. They'll start believing that their little one is growing up and deserves to get more fun in her life. Hope you give it a try. <*)))>< |
pgg90789
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i remember when i was a child,i use to think the same thing too,now i am a mom myself i know of the dangers out there and understand them.when you are a child you think you do but you don't.as an adult i still have a lot to learn,life is a ever learning experience.the point i am trying to get accross to you is,cause of love for you,makes her act this way.moms in the whole don't like to see their kids hurting.go light on her,go out in groups.put this to her. |
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