Mr. Vise Grips
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Kids at this age have a knack for knowing how to be down right mean to one another. Kids will be kids, and involving the teachers will just make things worse on your son if his schoolmates get wind of that. I'm no psychologist, but if this were my situation I would talk to your son and open a line of communication about the situation. Spend a lot of time listening, as much as it takes. As everyone can relate, sometime just an ear to listen is the best advice you can give. Then suggest some ways for him to deal with the teasing at the point of occurrence. Typically, kids of this age tease to get a reaction from the victim, crying, arguing, yelling...whatever. Once your son understands how to control his reaction and redirect the energy to something more constructive, he gains control of the situation and the teasers will move on to someone else. Lastly, learning to gain control of emotion can take some time, while he's learning make sure that you keep talking to him about the situation and provide LOTS of positive reinforcement. If he doesn’t want to talk, let him know that you are there whenever he’s ready. Remind him of this regularly. He needs to know that he is loved and has someone on his side with him unconditionally. Without that, its easy for a young one to bottle their emotions instead of control them. |
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MM
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can you give a little more inforamtion on what he is getting tease about? |
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Trivi
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School bullying has become a major problem. The influence bullying will have on the kid is not a pleasant one. The kid might be unwilling to even go to school. So its better to bring it up with the school prinipal. Talk to the principal about your concern. I am sure the principal must be aware of school bullying and the remedies. |
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cl!ck me
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what is he being teased about? |
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rensen
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You may want to bring your son to the school and talk to a teacher or principal. They may watch after your son. |
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gammatango271
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Karate..... also will help him build up his self confidence. |
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MissNurse
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Go right up to the school and speak to his teachers and principal. |
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jlnatc
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talk to his teachers |
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yourgporyourhp
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Homeschool him. He'll get a better education that way and make better friends. |
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Daniel
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Beat the living **** out of the teasers then boost your kids confidence and teach him to defend himself |
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pooch
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Hire a hit man.
I know that sounds like I'm being a wise *** but my experience with school administrations is that they couldn't care less about your kid's problems and you are on your own trying to deal with it.
I really do wish you luck with it. I feel for the poor little guy. Been there. |
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octdal6942
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Nothing. I remember my childhood very well. And you'll brand your son a 'mama's boy' for life. It will be years before he's able to look anyone in the face again. He'll get picked on even worse, and hated by everyone.
Truth is, he needs to tease back. Kids aren't nice. Not in the slightest. He needs to play along and fight back, (with words preferrably) or he's going to end up an outsider forever. If you want him to be well adjusted, then you're going to have to do something that's going to drive you crazy.
Tell him to pick a fight with the worst boy doing the teasing. Tell him to pop the kid in the nose the next time it happens. He'll get suspended from school probably, but in the end, he'll end up a well adjusted normal kid.
Its because those kids see him as weaker than them. The pack mentality sees some kind of weakness in him that they are preying on. He has to let them know that he's a healthy member of the group, or he'll get cut off, the same way herd animals push the sick and weak outside the herd.
If you don't, and you try to do it for him, then he's going to end up totally ostracized. Its a tough choice, but its one you have to make. |
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jenjf5678
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Talk to his teacher and the principal. Tell them you would appreciate their discretion in not letting the other students know you talked to them. If the little brats find out, they may tease your son more.
Also, try to make sure your son has a stylish haircut and clothes. I know it's shallow but kids are ignorant. If conforming makes his life easier, than do it. Stores like TJ Max and Marshall's offer brand name clothing at reasonable prices.
In the meantime, think of all your son is learning from this. He's learning to deal with adversity. It will make him a stronger person. |
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amber waves of grain
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Everybody gets teased at school. Look for ways to help him cope. |
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dickebk
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i agree that at some point in a person's school life they will get teased. i agree to find ways to help him cope. i suggest several things:
1. post another ques. asking for great books or videos for your son's age range that shows appropriate examples of coping skills.
2. going to the school administration or to a teacher might help but take this as an opportunity for your son to learn some coping skills that will help him perhaps for the rest of his life rather than you trying to solve the problem.
3. if there is actual physical contact going on perhaps talk to people at school as well as the other things i mentioned. |
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kkiaserdrago
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Let him know, by words, and deeds, that his home is a safe place. As for school, if it's physical bullying, definitely say something, that's abuse. if its just words, its against every parents instinct, but let it happen. Now , and in the future, this will happen to him, and rather he learns how to deal with it now, when its relatively harmless, then when he's an adult and won't know how to deal with the jerks we all meet in life. |
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lilmiss_1421
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find out the reason why hes being teased and fix it...if its his clothes go by him new ones that r in style etc...kids at school can be so mean these days and it stems from the parents...my daughter got punched in the face on the bus from a kid that lives down the road...my husband went over and gave the father a talking to...but i wonder where the kid learned it from hhmmmmmm....also talk to the school and make sure these kids dont do it anymore....good luck |
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lilvette87
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iF THE TEASING GETS TOO SERIOUS ... REPORT IT TO THE OFFICE. |
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DarkFire
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Tell him to ignore them. Than maybe they will leave him alone. Because if they know that it's not getting him upset. They will stop. |
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♥Imma Be Me♥
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talk to his teacher about it and see what the teacher says or does...but i wish u the best of luck |
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Good boy
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talk to his teachers they can tell you how to help him |
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astroginger1237
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hey i am parker mckenna posey and i am 10 yrs old and i was on a t.v show for 7 yrs on my wife and kids and i kno what its like to be teased just today a guy left a message on my cell phone saying nasty stuff and teasing me and i was cry the whole night but anyway really just tell ur son that dont be afraid and make fun of them to and just be the fun kid he is and dont go all pysoco on u like i did my mom lol kk bi -parker |
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