lutanent
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discuss with your syster that you can not continue like that because if you will continue like that you loose your school, and no body will care about you.
If she didn't find a solution try to find another place to study. |
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jpi5
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If they are letting you live with them in exchange for childcare/chores, it's reasonable for them to expect you to take care of the kids. However, it is not reasonable for them to break their word and stay out longer than they said they would. Explain to them that you are very thankful that they are letting you stay with them, and you understand their need for some freedom from the kids once in awhile. Then explain that you don't mind taking care of the kids, but they have to keep their promises and return when they say they will, because your school work is suffering, and your needs are important as well. Remember to breathe, keep calm, and remind yourself that this isn't an attack, it's the forming of boundaries and agreements. You have a right to your opinion, you have the right to maintain your point of view and stand up for yourself. Before you have this conversation, search out some ideas of where else you can stay, or alternatives you may have to explore if your sister and her boyfriend aren't interested in helping you help them. Is there a place to study in the library so that you don't have to go home right away? Can you join a study group and tell your sister that you'll be late coming home three evenings out of the week with school projects? Can you make sure those kids are asleep and in bed by 8 or 9? I know it's not much, but the extra hour you get while they are in bed can be valuable. There is a chance that your sister won't want to hear what you have to say, but saying it is important, because then you will know where you stand, and what to do next. Talking about things is action, sitting on things makes no change, you have to address issues in order to learn and grow. You need to do well in school so that you can become more independent and not have to rely on your sister, then you can move out and not have to take care of anyone but you! Learning to assert yourself will be one of the greatest assets you can have in your life, becoming skilled at making agreements diplomatically will help you build a strong foundation for all aspects of your future. PS- Nobody made history by being a pushover, you go girl! |
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Barbie
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let them know how u feel...i know how u feel because im in the exact situation! i live with my brother and his 2 kids and his wife and whenever i say no to anything they get all pissy with mee too....i told them it bugs me and they have to respect me and if they want me to watch their kids anymore they better be a lot nicer or theyl have to find a replacement....well good luck to you |
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gunshotrock
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well i suggest lay the law down ! aws aretha franklin said , R-E-S-P-E-C-T ! so just tell them you are sick of it and tell them how its ruining you |
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slipknot_132004
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say no, and if they still you with the kids *depending on ther ages* simply dont watch them, you said no and thats final. is they leave u with them send them to their rooms and do your homework. dont stay up to wait for them. go to bed when your tired. you should have to stay up and watch their kids after u said no and they werent home by the time they'd said. i'd sure think your grades and sleep is more apportant than what they do while they dump their kids off on u and go out. |
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mizz_slim_92
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just tell them. are you scared to do so? |
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sparkly_winks
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you need to be straight forward about your concerns and let them know that you are falling behind in your classes. You cannot afford to get bad grades by letting your sis and brother in law use you everytime they want to go out. i would speak up and tell them that you don't mind helping out every now and then but you have to make time to study too. If they don't understand I would move out.. |
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Muaahhh
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Make a trade. let them do your homeworks! just kidding... well you can tell them that there's no way for you stay up late to watch the kids cause you have tons of homeworks to finish and you have to wake up early. Of course say it in a polite manner and not exactly how i said it, but you get the idea right? well anyway, i'm sure you'd love to help your sis but of course who wants to have failing grades right? Explain to her how babysitting affects your grades and so as your sleeping hours. I'm sure she'll understand, she's you're sister. |
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jewels_for_rufus
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absolutley say NO tell them exactly how you feel, if they get pissy...move out and get a job too, youll be doing about the same and not be taken advantage of..... |
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a friendly duck
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Yeah. just say You really can't because you have to do your homework. She's your sister, she'll understand. You're only a pushover because you have it set in your mind that you can't be anything else. |
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the_Dunamis
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Talk to your sister about it in private. If she doesn't listen you have to find a friend livind closeby to stay with you and then u take turns in baby sitting.
If that isn't possible, you'll have to do the right thing. Make up your mind not to do it even if they get pissed off. At least once you make your statement seriously, they would listen and consider you. You are not being a rebel, just fighting for your own right. Tell them that at least you'll watch the kids but only for a specified period
Another option is to talk to your teacher (who sees you sleeping) so that they can come and talk to your sister. |
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McCain is lovely.
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just say no!! tell them that you arent getting the sleep you need and your grades are falling, and i bet theyll understand |
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AAshleyok
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First of all you have to learn how to be "frank"or Str8 forward with people. Say No, and don't worry about them getting upset. Either it's a yes or a now what can it hurt. Being a Pushover or being kind hearted is something that effect alot of ppl. If you let this continue you'll would end up going off on them and it could of been better if you was just honest from the start. Your education is more important than that! |
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