Randy
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Stop having sex with your boy friend.
No matter what others are telling you, you are too young.
The very fact that you are asking this question demonstrates that you are too young.
Have a very frank talk with your boy friend and explain why this cannot continue. If your boy friend doesn’t like you saying no, then be assured he neither loves you nor even respects you and isn’t the right one.
My wife and I have been together for 51 years, since we met at 14 and have been married for 46 years. Believe me when I say don’t do it. |
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Lady Lara Croft
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You may want to check out the age of consent of your state. It can vary from 16-18 in the US. If you are under the age, it is considered statutory rape. |
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Cronides
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Clearly if you "should" be having sex is somewhat a moot point now that you ARE having sex. That being said, it sounds like you have a good head on your shoulders, so you should use it. Educate yourself on contraception to avoid unwanted pregnancy; obviously a condom every time is the easiest and most discreet if you are not wanting your parents to know but informing your parents and getting on the pill would be even more a responsible approach and more reliable than a condom. Your religious beliefs are something you'll have to hash out for yourself. All Christian beliefs will not condone pre-marital sex, yet most teenagers won't really care what they think when it comes to matters of hormones. Either way, you should come to terms with what you believe is right or wrong in your actions and feel good about the decision you come to. Be true to yourself and be smart about it.
Take care and good luck. :) |
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shadow/01
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no. but if you are having sex you should be using protection
you do knot want to get pregnet at your age. |
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Mr. Pheterson
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It's up to you, but I'd say at your age you're too young to be sexually active. If you feel comfortable with it, use a condom EVERY time (reguardless of what he says), and if you can, get birth control. There is always going to be a risk of getting pregnant, the only way to eliminate that risk is not to have sex at all. If that's not an option for you, stay safe. |
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Phillip
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If you have to ask that question, then no, you probably shouldn't be having sex.
Ultimately it's your decision and if YOU feel ready to have sex, there is no way these answers are going to help. However, if you're simply doing it because your boyfriend wants to or because you think it'd be cool...no.
I know a lot of people who had sex before their marriage and regretted it. I'm not saying that you should necessarily wait until marriage, but again, ultimately your decision. |
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zaxton6
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you realy are young but you are going to do what you want anyway and your dicisions are what gos as noone can make you stop but you and you know what is right for you and you will have to live with the consecinces of your actions. |
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jcleann13
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no thats dumb and you are being stupid you know all to well to many times you've heard no sex b4 marriage what kinda church where you raised in b4 long u gonna b a whore |
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mad dog
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have you ever heard of a condome just ask him to put one on so you wont have a baby |
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auntb93again
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I think you should tell him you would prefer to wait. If he actually values you, and not just an easy piece, he will accept that. The alternatives would probably be to either get married rather younger than is usually good, or to give up your religious convictions. Neither of them seem as good as at least finding out whether he is willing to wait.
A tip, though: if you are to give up sex ("going all the way," as they say), you will need to give up those activities that get you sufficiently hot and bothered to make you lose your judgment. Go back to thinking of yourself as a virgin if you can. |
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Cronus
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Love can be shown in many ways besides the sexual act. Love in and of itself is a feeling, not an action. To give or feel love from someone can sometimes be done by he simplest things, like showing someone your there for them when they need you or maybe a nice massage after a busy day. Or even something as simple as a card that’s says you care.
If this issue disturbs you, and it would appear it does, or you would not have asked this question. I think you need to follow the part of you that is raising this doubt. Besides being a feeling, love in a relationship is a two way street. You seem to have love for him, but does he share that same conviction? Maybe if you approached the sex aspect from the standpoint of showing your love another way, and try to see his reaction. If it is upset then I believe you can be certain the sex you give is for his gratification alone. If he is ok with it, then you might have a great person there and the makings of a wonderful life as a couple in true love. |
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sxmtest
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you need to do violence to yourself...otherwise life will be quick to do violence to you...
meanwhile, oblige him to wear a condom and see if "HE" really loves you... |
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fawnsam
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use a condom . if u r ready go 4 it |
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rainbowunweaver2002
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Get to know everything about contraception; ask your boyfriend to use a condome |
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jen_hick1999
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If you are not ready for the consequences of having sex then NO you shouldnt be having sex. There are a million other ways to show someone that you love them without having sex. Once you've started its hard to stop, but you have to talk to him, exactly what you wrote on here would be good. Tell him your concerns and fears, chances are hes feeling the same thing. Just be careful and think about your future. |
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german_sphinx
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Marry first..!!!
Belive me thats better ,i know it's hard. |
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Wishes & Dreams
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No mainly because yu know that it's wrong and becuase they are other ways to show your boyfriend that you love him than having Sex and if you have protected sex you wont have to worry about having a BABy answer by questions 2 |
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salix
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only you can answer that. |
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biosx
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If i may give u an advice, what's the point to having sex too soon?
if u have sex before married,then what's the fun u can have when u got married?
beside, its more enjoy to have sex when u got married,since 0% u will feel guilty because of self conscious / free problem because of unplan and unwanted pregnancy.
just be patient.
men who really love u will only want sex after married. |
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infusion1212
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I know what u mean. I feel that if u love the person and are not doing it for pure pleasure then it is ok. I was also raised in a church environment, and i have the same problem with my girlfriend. But i feel that if you know you love him, and he loves you, then it is ok. I think God would understand. |
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Babyboy-Barcelona 4 life!
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If both of you are ready you should do it.But you must use protection! |
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missandrea_marie
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What you should do is talk to your boyfriend. Tell him you don't feel comfortable having sex with your upbringing and that you don't want to have a child if you got pregnant and you wouldn't want to screw up his football career. You could as talk to your pastor, reverand or priest, whatever your case could be and tell him how you feel. Most importantly listen to your gut...don't do something you don't feel comfortable with and once you say no your boyfriend has to stop. Talk to your mom if you can. Talk to a counselor at school or talk to friends. You could search up on the internet a phone number to a teen hotline. Just find someone to talk to. If you have any more problems just email me at missandrea_marie@yahoo.com. I'll listen. Don't forget most importantly USE PROTECTION! Whether it is a condom or birth control, preferably both...no way should you get pregnant. |
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jadalamb
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NO you should be having sex when you are 25. |
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babeegirl_69
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His carrer will never be messed up. There are other ways of expressing your love other than sex. If u still want to get on a dependable form of birth control. But keep in mind that you can still get pregnat. |
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netboy12121
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Well if you feel you are ready to have sex then go ahead, but of course there are other ways to show your love for him besides sex like kissing, holding hands etc.
But if you do want to continue to have sex wit him, then i recommend that you suggest to him to wear a condom everytime he has sex with you. |
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Moonwalker
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quote: "I was raised in the church, and I still am going to church; therefore, I know that it is wrong to have sex before you are married" unquote
oh! were you raised in the church? did you fall from above then with wings? so you know it is wrong but you enjoy sex do you? you wicked girl...you lusty lecherous vixen....and you say you care about your family,......and his football career!!hmph, as if sex makes him disabled to kick a silly ball....balls to his career....go baby...go f*&k....again and again...and tell me all about it... |
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Treat Infamy
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If you have to post to ask this question, then I feel you already know the answer.
He should be showing that he loves you by not pressuring you to have sex (especially at 15) I know in the UK 16 is the minimum legal age for consensual sex. Any younger and it is classed as statutory rape. Abstain from sex for your own health and safety. If you're worried about pregnancy I have to wonder if you are both taking precautions. I'm more concerned about what HE would do if you DID conceive. He may not be around for you to find out. |
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lilichopping
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Take your time before having it...you don't show your love for him with this...and your boyfriend should respect you...if he loves you. |
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Pepe
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Baby...chill...sex is normal and is good to be done when u just feel to do it.U are lucky to have a guy that cares for you.The church is just an institution...they aren't allowed to tell you how should you live your life. You are a woman :) Think about that.About pregnancy...use condoms, or for more pleasure...try some anti-conception pills...u should get them in a drug-store, is a pack of 21 pills or 28... they have instructions, also. Pregnancy at 15 years SUX big time...so care more about you and protect yourself. Have fun... |
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S. Croft
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NO! First off, it has nothing to do with religion. Nobody can say for sure if it pisses god (or GOD)off or not. However, you are only 15 and there is absolutely no need for it. The only thing that sex brings into a relationship at an early point is confusion. I have found that it is often times hard to distinguish between love and lust. So the only thing that you are going to do by continuing to have sex is confuse the hell out of your emotions. It will only ruin your relationship with your boyfriend in the long run. |
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emily2012
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no, if you believe in God, it is uneard of and DANGEROUS |
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