starrchild42
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Sometimes people just grow apart for no apparent reason. Distance is hard on any kind of relationship. Now that you've moved back and you found out that she has broken up with her boyfriend, you two might be able to have that same closeness again. Just call, email or message her and let her know that you are there for her any time she needs to talk or have a shoulder to cry on. If she doesn't respond then it's time for you to move on. There's no sense in wasting your time on someone how doesn't have time for you. |
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internnett
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It sounds to me like you really love her very much. I think when the two of you separated, there became an "emptyness" in your hearts. You may have been closer than some sisters are. It just seems like she fell in love and focused all of her attention on her boyfriend because she needed love. She never stopped needing you, she probably just feels so bad about neglecting your friendship that she's afraid to face you. I think you two should just get together, in person, and "say what is really in your heart." I truly believe that it's better to be honest, than to live a lie. But somebody's got to make the first move. I wish you both well. |
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girly
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Sorry for your hurt. I am in the same situation and I think that we just have to accept that our lives move on when we relocate and others are still stuck in the old ways. Hope you make a new best friend that deserves you. Good luck |
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Nita and Michael
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A friendship is always worth saving...I still keep in touch with friends I met in Junior high and that was 15 years ago...she may just be angry that you moved , I think the only way to find out why she's been so distant is to ask her... |
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jasalley143
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it sounds like you need to suck it up, and be honest with your friend..you might be surprised with the outcome..maybe she is just as scared as you and just as hurt..you should really try opening up, and if that doesnt work..then maybe, and only then, would it maybe be a good idea to let her go..you can only be her friend as long as she wants to be yours... |
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g3010
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Take a hint from this, if what you are saying is true then this is her way of separating herself from you, she has found some-one else to be with. Move on with your friends because they are a dime a dozen. A turn friend will be all up in your business and at your heals every time you turn around. ( lets go to the movies, lets go shopping, lets go get something to eat, did you call Joe last night, did you hear what Karen did to Joe.) You would almost think you were married to each other. |
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haritha
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2 |
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slim shady
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NO DONT TELL HER. LET HER REALISE |
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Scoobi
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hecks yea yall need to sit and talk for a long time |
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Emma Monkey
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This is a tough one. I'm sorry to say it but you've drifted apart. Your friend now has other interests and other friends. It is very difficult to keep in touch when people move away, I know this from experience, but I applaud you for trying. Even if you did say something to your friend I'm sorry to say she probably won't be too bothered. She probably feels that she lost you when you moved away, and she moved on with her life. You need to do the same.
Maybe you could just call her every few months to check she's still alive, but other than that there doesn't seem to be much you can do.
Sorry. |
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gpctman
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she has obviously moved on with her life. maybe you should too. there are lots of people out that could use a real friend. |
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♥Bubbles♥
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yeah u should tell her....you should tell her how u feel if she ws a real friend she will understand |
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ariana
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First of all, I believe that even if she hurt you, you should help her out during this tough time. You don't have to treat her the same way that she treated you, in fact you should mention how she hurt you as soon as possible even during this time. It will make her realize that you really care about her and you were hurt by her, she will turn to you and respect you, but if you choose to break your friendship with her now, she might not trust you or respect you as a friend and your cause of being hurt by here won't make her feel as guilty as it would if you took care of her at this point when she needs you. |
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beautiful_***_evil_*****
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Time and distance can sometimes be a problem...but if 2 were truly bestfriends then you should still be that way...email her and tell her how u feel...better yet...go to her.... |
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MinnesotaKate
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Even it if is hard to tell people when they have hurt you, you should. Let her know that you miss her and want to support her though this time if she is willing to give you the same time as well. The least you can do is try, if she does not respond to you reaching out, then it might be harder to bring this friendship back to life. |
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cubmac
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Obviously all situations are different, but it really doesn't seem like your "friend" cares all that much. I would ask yourself this question: "If I stop calling/emailing her will we even still talk ever?"... It really doesn't seem like you would since you are the only one making any effort. I would say she obviously isn't that great of a friend and now you are seeing her true colors. |
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summerall05
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I would recommend that you remain persistent, I went through a similar time period of hurt with my "best friend" but loving far away I was unable to know that she had become an alcoholic and was later informed that my calls and continuing to try to contact her was somewhat of a saving her life factor. Keep plugging away, and in the meantime pray for your friend and for yourself that He will place the right fit for you into your life. God is amazing at giving you just what you need. Sorry to hear you going through this, I know what it is like, (my "best friend" just came for a weekend visit about a month ago! She initiated it all!) |
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trippleheart5827
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well you should def. tell her that your hurt b/c if you dont then its just gunna make the space between you two even bigger. Just explain to her that you guys have been friends forever and that u care about her . She probably needs you now most of all since her b/f of 7 years broke up with her. |
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resource man
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yes |
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dazaclaza
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yes |
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huntermprice
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yes you should but tell her its not that big of a deal |
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buffshit23
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i think that u should tell her that she hurt u by not calling u or answering ur messages but tell her ur sorry that her boyfriend dumped her and also that u guys need to meet each other somwhere and get as close as u were those many years ago. |
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jesi
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sure you should talk to her. Just think it as if you were in that situation. Your not always gona keep the same friends your whole life, but if you relle feel you have a conection with her and miss her you should relle tell her how you feel. If your not good at speaking your mind practice in front of the mirror or with another friend. Guide her thru this hard situation and as she sees your there for her she will realize it and she will eventualy be there for you. but be patient it takes time.
~ Jesi
ps any more ?'s Jesigurl5@yahoo.com |
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tmswarriorsrule
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no you should help her in her time of need |
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