Imaka
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Be strong and take control of your life. An education cannot be taken away from you and may be very important later. Go for the education ... I was VERRRRRY glad I did! |
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OSAMA W. BUSH
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he can't afford to give you money, so get a job. |
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crazyat26
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well, he is right. You should always be prepared for the worst. $13/hr and just him supporting you and your child isnt that much money so I am assuming things are pretty tight and do not have alot of extra money to spend. There is no reason why you couldnt go to night school and get a part time job to take the stress off of him. 13/hr and a family, that would stress me out. Plus if you go to FASA you could quality for help to go to college.
After you are done. He could go to college too. this way you both could be making good money and not worry. If anything happens to each other you both have something to fall back on. My husband and I have done this. We both work and support 3 children. Because we both work we are able to afford a home and not worry about where the money for bills is coming from. We did that for years until we finally had enough of living paycheck to paycheck.
Raising a family now a days needs two parents working (with lower incomes) to keep above water. |
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shannon
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It sounds like you both need marriage counseling more then anything... When you decided to marry, you became "One Flesh". Meaning you two are now one. There is no more "his things, his money, my things, my money". No matter who is the one who works, or who is the one who takes care of the kids and household, both roles are equally important and neither one should be holding back, especially money. |
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Andrea B
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Remember, after you graduate from college, you will be the top bread winner. I stay stick with it and finish up college. What can it hurt? Plus, he is right, what if something does happen to him? Where would that leave you and your daughter?? I say stick with school for now, then reap the rewards afterwards. |
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flowerlover12003
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I think I'd get that college degree or a job so that you have a skill in case of death, divorce. He's helping you look out for the future and your children. |
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roland_wlfraven
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Yes, you should get a job. As to keeping all the money, don't. If you get a job, and start bringing home some cash, you should help pay some of the bills. Helping with the bills will make your husband feel more secure about your future, and it should give you a good idea as to why he wants you to get an education. |
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sexyleilani
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I think you should. So you can have money to say what you want about where it goes. You can still go to school too. Either, job or school but both are good choices! Pt. JOb or PT School. |
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sweetie_barbar
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I think that you should be independent of your husband. You could get a job and save all the money that you will be earning. So in case your husband leaves you (for whatever reason), you can stand on your own and you have savings for emergencies. |
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lazy_gurl_out
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if you think you are ready for a job go for it and this lazy_gurl_out from the problem about the boys touching me and everything i am 16 |
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vivi
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The better good that you and your husband thinks is for your child.So get a job and also study. |
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bloodless_lady
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I think that it's good for you to be some financial support in the family...because it's true...you dont' know what'll happen to him...not only could he die or you'd divorce...but what if he gets injured and cannot support the family financially?
Although going to college and studyin' can be a hassle, I'm sure that if you organize yourself well enough...and that you take a simple, part-time job, while you finish specializing in whatever it is you'd like to...then you'd do well. The point of going to college is to get a career and a job, no? So when you finish that you can earn your own way...even if you don't do it full-time.
It's alright that he supports you, but you can't depend on him...you gotta be your own woman. And, if you do get a job and earn money, you should be generous and have joint accounts. You can use the money together for payin' the essentials, and hopefully you'll get to use some that's left over for you and your daughter and him. I'm sure that if he's working hard, the least he deserves is goin' out to eat with his family or all of you going to a theme park. Sharing that way makes the family more strongly bonded...so the probabilities of him divorcing are least likely. :) |
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Q~T
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I basicly work so I can spend money. I don't feel guilty because I made it myself. Yes, he should suport you, but I think he has the right to ask you not to go on a shopping spree. Because you go to school also you need a job that you can set your own schedual. Why don't you sell Avon? That way you are your own boss. You work when you want to. You work as much or as little as you want. Also you sell to who you want. Plus you get a good discount on all their products. I think you may like that. |
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lj1
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If it's an option, you could always get a day job and go to school at night. |
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thisisntyourtaco
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you should divorce him he is controlling |
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PrincipledRake
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Instead of getting a job & going to college get some second hand books on understanding finance & where taxes come from, who voted for them & how investments & the stock market work.
Then learn some marketing & sales, something on dealing with people & difficult people & negotiation.
In short you are 15 books away from making more money than your husband would make in his life within a couple of years if you just started now.
Then you could really start to consider what it is you want from life rather than have life push you around. |
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dacoles1
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Hunny, as a woman you should want to be independent and be able to hold your own. I am married as well. I do not work because I stay at home with my children. I understand your situation and where you are coming from. But I do agree with your husband, you need to go to college. Education will get you further in life to achieve your goals..if you have any. I may not work but I do have my bachelors degree and I just registered for school again to work on a second degree, so getting a job is no problem. I believe you need to do something in life whether you work or go to school. It's good to be able to say that you have accomplished something on your own and not just be dependent on someone else. Not to be mean but $13 an hr isn't ****. He just might not have any extra money to give you. My husband makes almost 100,000 a year and he's stingy too. It doesn't matter how much they make they never have enough to give us :) thats why we need to get our own so we can tell them f*ck off I got my own sh*t. So what I'm getting to is yes baby you need to get a job. |
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curl joe
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if he talks about divorce or dying thats kinda wierd. if you have the time try and do both. |
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manojtejwani
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With a child at home, it is difficult to work and study. But, if you can get some help it will be worth while for you to work (perhaps part time) and either get a technical diploma or a full college degree - something that will help you make more money. But do remember that you will be doing all this for your child. After all we try and live a better future through our children.
I hope things work out for you.
And try and avoid a divorce it will cause a lot of disruption in your life, in your husband's life and in your daughter's life. Try and work things out between you and your husband. |
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