IceStarr
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Oh Honey but that is the problem; we do understand what you as a teenager is going thru ( been there, done that) most parents don't want their teens to go thru the same garbage as they did ( just as our folks did for us and their folks before them). You as teens think that parents couldn't possibly know anything about what you are feeling because they are "OLD". |
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patrick
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They do. They were teenagers once. They probably understand better than you do because they have seen it all the way through. Listen to them!! They know how it will end. |
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WickedMagnet
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Why don't "us teenagers" understand that WE PARENTS have been there & done that?
It's not a matter of parents not understanding. They just have forgotten that their kids are going to have to learn the same lessons through their own successes and failures. Parents definitely understand. I think what you fail to see here is the basic idea that "No, you're not going to do that because I said so, and it's not cool anyway, no matter what all your friends say" is based on the fact that your parents did the same thing to their parents years ago, and came to understand their parents' very same reactions some years later. So now it's their turn to do the same things to you, because that's what parents do.
As much as we'd like to tell our youth exactly what and what not to do & expect them to follow directions to the letter, it's just not going to happen. You're going to do the exact same thing with your kids someday. |
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Psychology
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It's a different generation. Society changes constantly. People mature into parents and take on a new disciplinarian form. They do understand, they've been there. They're just looking out for your best interest and safety. |
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Isadora
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If you have a good relation with your parents, have a conversation with them and they´ll advice and understand you, but if you don´t try to speak the problem with them, you must understand they lived different things, and they´re afraid something bad could happen to you. Its just lack of communication, that´s all! |
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eddygordo19
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They know because they went through it. Being a teenager is tough because it's a big transition from childhood to adulthood. And your parents want you to become a successful adult which requires hard work, i.e. getting good grades, staying out of trouble, staying away from losers that think they are cool, not experimenting with drugs and alcohol because nothing good can come from it, not staying out late because that's usually when teenagers get killed in car accidents, not getting pregnant or fathering a child, etc.
I'm going to be forty this year. Some of my highschool classmates are already dead (about a dozen) because some of the stuff I listed above. Do yourself a favor and listen to your parents. They're alive for a reason. |
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merrigandesign
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this is the same question I asked about thirty years ago when I was a teen And my parents asked when they were teen. and I bet when you have kids in there teen they will be asking it too.
Things change so fast that parents do not keep up with the kids. And kids think that they are the only ones with problems. Well life goes on and your parents might just know about your problems and might even be able to help you. But you have to understand that they are from a slower generation that had less technology so might be a bit lost with what you are going through. Give it time. |
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mulldacity
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Because as a teenager you have this undeniable thought that nobody understands you.
They understand completely. They remember being a teenager. They just know that all they can do is let you angst yourself out of it.
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Ron C
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Parents understand exactly what teenagers are going through, but teenagers have to feel misunderstood so that they can establish their own egos & sense of personal taste & space. If parents are really understanding, most teens will still go to relative extremes to get their parents' anxiety levels up.
This whole conflict may be a biological/ evolutionary/ anthropological development that aids in procreation. If we didn't create friction in our parents' household, we might not get out, find a mate, and widen the gene pool. (Or, in the case of those of us who aren't breeders, just get out of the house so our parents can be alone together.) |
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drewster
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I wouldn't say that all parents don't understand what teenagers are going through. It's probably that most of them are so concerned about trying to maintain a particular style or standard of living, that they loose sight, ignore or forget the difficulties teenagers are going through and have forgotten the difficulties that they themselves may have gone through at that stage. Many parents lead such busy lives that they don't even take time out to sit and chat with their kids. Rather than talking with their children, they find themselves talking "at" or shouting at their kids/teens. I believe that should they (parents) make a genuine, keen effort to "plug" into their teen's lifestyle, that would be a way of establishing some rapport, which in turn would be a key basis to understanding their teenagers better.
However, to be fair to parents, most teenagers themselves purposely shut out their parents and prevent them from establishing any type of cordial relationship. Remember that communication is a two-way street and that teenagers can't keep their parents at arm's length and still expect them to understand what they (teenagers) are going through. |
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la_la_la
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Parents had their own issues when they were teenagers, but not to the extent teenagers today have issues. Dealing with your parents as a teenager sucks, but try to remember that they love you and just don't want to see you get hurt. Once you're in your 20's, you'll be closer to your parents and understand where they were coming from. Trust me. |
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grateful6979
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they do to some extent, but things were different when they grew up. teens today are in a whole new ball game |
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toddle
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Maybe because they don't understand the new life style. They used to be in the 70's and stuff...but now the can't relate to 2006!! I don't know. But, they are parents...and they can be quite strange once in a while. |
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Ms Fortune
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they do understand... they went thru it too.... but I think sometimes they forget... since its been so long... and the longer it has been the harder it gets to relate to it and put themselves in your shoes... plus they as adults know that this period of your life will pass... someday you will look back and realize these things were not as serious or as bad as they felt at the time....so they forget how bad or serious it feels while your still going thru it...perhaps you can try to remind them by asking them to remember how they felt when they were your age ? good luck ! |
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mjasfvpld
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Because things that we understand probably go too fast for our parents.
They have a hard time comprehending things that we can understand too easily. Talk to them and help them understand. |
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babygirl
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parents probably do, for they were our age once. they just want to protect us from dangers and in mistakes that they may have made or any mistakes that we make make and regret. |
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Snuffy
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Most do understand. We've been there and probably done that, even if we don't admit it. If you don't seem to be able to communicate with your parents, you should talk to your pastor or school counselor. |
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