Feeling Mutual
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Darken your hair, add a tint of gray, look em straight in the eye and tell them to bring you some coffee, then send them back three times because it is not to your liking. |
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cpinatsi
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By being serious in what you do. Ask for more and get it done excellently. |
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mustlovedogs
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Don't dress sexy, take an interest in the business, and ask your boss for more responsibility. |
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AtiaoftheJulii
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Dress professionally. |
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zeal4him
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Take business courses, and ask for more responsibility.
Someday you'll have a business degree, and you can take it with you where you'll be respected more. |
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Hencor72
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What were you employed to do? You should ask for a job description if you dont know already. I work in a male dominated business and am equal on all levels except that they assume I will always make the tea/coffee! I'm with you on that as it pisses me off, but I tell them! |
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charles b
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Any man who treats a women like that is a rude jerk living in the past, and to answer your question next time they ask you to do some stupid menial task like getting coffee say no that is not what i was hired to do, and if they ask you to pick something up off of the ground for them then they are just a sick minded person so avoid them as much as possible. good luck |
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lahlahdipsypo
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I work with all men too in a male dominated office doing a "rough" job. I don't wear make-up, don't dress scantily and avoid doing any serious flirting. If you play up your female role and attributes you'll be more of an object than a coworker. If you need to, quit your job and find one in a field where women are taken more seriously. |
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Piccolina bella21
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when you say taken seriously you what exactly are you trying to say??
because when you say taken seriously it sounds more as if there is someone at your work and you want to be noticed. |
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pyerzuka
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Dont wear clothes that show too much chest and always try to be a "colleague" in every situation. You should just analyze your own situation ;_; no one here will give you an accurate answer. |
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The Snappy Miss Pippi Von Trapp
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First of all, I'm a man. However, I'm gay, so I know a bit about discrimination.
The one thing you've left out is what your position is? Are you an executive, or are you a secretary/administrative assistant? If it's the latter, menial tasks usually come with the territory -- regardless of gender [I was an admin asst for years back in my temping days].
But if your job is higher on the responsibility scale than secretary, you're within your rights to put your foot down. Believe me, I know what straight men in power can be like, but if you show that you're strong and confident, they'll respect you more. Your "wanting more" is not sufficient -- you have to courteously but firmly make your wants known and gently but firmly insist that they be met. |
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origamimark
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Have a tantrum in which you throw the tray of coffee on the floor and demand equal treatment. Blonds are not stupid ! |
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waltcosmos
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No, don't ASK for more responsibilty, just TAKE IT! Finish whatever you have to do then take a serious look around at everything about that job and place of work. EVERYTHING! There will be something that is not right, something inefficient. Pick up the ball and run with it. And don't ask for permission!!! You'll never get it and then you're screwed. |
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ap14rcf70
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You're not giving us enough to go on. What type of business/industry? What size is the company? What is your specific position SUPPOSED to be? Did you get a written job description? What's the demographic breakdown of the company - especially the people you come in contact with every day? How EXACTLY does your current experiece differ from what you expected it to be?
I could think of a bunch more questions - but I think you get the point. To get a good answer - we need a thorough questions.
Hang in there. |
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ModelFlyerChick
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I'm an admin. assistant and work in a male dominated office. My first day on the job one of them told me that I need to make the coffee. I told him that I don't do coffee. I don't drink it and therefore I won't make it nor will I clean up the mess.
You pretty much have to stand up for yourself. Or fix something that really frustrates the men in the office. You do that and you will have them eating out of your hand so-to-speak.
In my case, its computers. Most of the guys in the office aren't very computer literate, even the one with the computer tech degree. They realized real quick that I can get them out of a jam faster than the office manager (only other computer literate person in the office) who isn't necessarily willing to help because of his work load. The only reason they found out...one of them started cursing at the computer, gave up and went out for a smoke. While he was out there I fixed his computer. This guy's officemate saw me come in there and sit down in front of the busted computer. He asked me what I was doing, I told that I was going to fix it. Know what he said? "You're a girl. You can't fix it because women don't know anything about computers." That pissed me off, so I fixed it. You should have seen the look on that guy's face. lol. Right before I left...I looked him right in the eye and said "I also fix cars." He almost fainted at that. lol
Anyway...anytime these guys have computer problems I become the most popular person in the office. lol |
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moonsister_98
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Don't be a Barbie Doll. Be real and act responsible. If making and serving coffee is your job, then make the best coffee possible. |
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Alexis
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don't joke around and be very serious. |
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Maddieツ
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if you feel uncomfy, tell them so.
however, an easier task is to take control of the workplace by
answering any questions they have and proving them that you
can do more than be a coffee server. |
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Erica N
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I was in the Navy for four years so I know exactly what you mean. First, were you hired for menial tasks like being a coffee fetcher? If you were, you may need to put in your time before you can start asking for more responsibility. If you were hired for more, than I'd start asking some hard questions of your employers, such as, "Why am I always given these menial tasks?" Could be sexism, could be they don't realize that they're doing it. Either way you should bring it to their attention. I'm sure your employer doesn't want a lawsuit on his hands. |
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supersteeze
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u work there cause your eye candy |
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biohazard
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This is not a matter of working with men or women. I think it is a matter of being conscious about your identity in life. Who you really are? A blonde young woman who wants to be taken seriously by men? Usually this is the 2nd step, after “I want to be nice and be acceptable by men”… All I’ m trying to say is that if you are conscious about what or whom you like (and mainly why) you will not have to worry about “be taken seriously”. Be serious and let people be unhappy with it, it is not your problem how to please them! |
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♣Mǝfiǝ Girl♣
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Refuse and say thats not my job. Blonde's are supposed to be tough women in the USA, Live upto it. |
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just a gurl
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What did they hire you to do? If your job is to be an assistant /receptionist, they probably did hire you b/c you are blonde and you are there just as eye candy. If you were hired as their equal, then refuse to get coffee and seek more responsibilty without asking permission. Don't go around and ask if someone needs help, bur rather just do things that you see need to be done and let them know that you are capable of doing them. If you are unhappy, why not search for another job or go back to school? |
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njn001
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You get asked to make the coffee because you don't refuse. put your foot down. |
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djave djarvoo 'djas originel
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Go to work in jeans and boots...with you hair tucked up into a baseball cap...tell them dirty jokes,burp and fart and there wont be a problem... |
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Gem
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I have worked nearly my entire career in "male dominated" industries. Here are some of my secrets to success:
1. Swear like a sailor. The men all do it, so I do it too. And learn to tell a blonde joke like a man. They love it when you dish out what they do.
2. Develop a real thick skin. Men (sorry guys) can be chauvinistic pigs. You have to learn to ignore the hoots, hollers, rude comments and sexist attitudes. In the beginning, I found myself sobbing in the rest room a few times. Eventually, you realize they don't realize what pigs they truly can be and get used to it. At least I did.
3. Never, and I mean never, scream (or whisper) sexual harassment. I have NEVER had to sleep with anyone to get promoted or the choice jobs. I have had to learn to deal with animals on a personal level, that they fully understand. Most guys who pull the "wink, wink", "sleep with me", BS have wives or serious girlfriends, or at least mothers. I HAVE had to put a couple in their place by offering, oh so sweetly and with a smile, to call their SO and ask them how they would feel about the suggested activities. Funny how fast they never bring that up again. Threatening sexual harassment labels you a trouble maker within the company (even if you are legally in the right). Offering to tell a wife, shuts the guy down now. Divorce is far more nasty than firing.
4. Pull the same weight as the most successful men. The guys who rise to the top, come in early, stay late, work weekends. So do I. We (women) are kidding ourselves when we b*tch about equal pay, then clock out early for sick kids or shopping trips. The successful men can't afford to do it, and if we want to be taken seriously, neither can we.
5. Don't talk about "girly" things around the guys. Makeup, hair salons, manicures, shopping, pregnancy/menstration symptoms, etc. etc. You really have to be gender neutral to get ahead. Save your kvetching for your girlfriends and mom.
6. Every once in a while, go and hang out with the guys after work. Learn to play darts, drink like a mad man (or pretend too) and shoot pool. Cannot tell you how much this helped my career. Not fair, but in many offices, totally required. Just be smart: go to the bar with 5 guys (stay sober and be able to drive yourself home or quietly call a cab), never with just 1 that has shown he is "interested" in you sexually.
7. Learn to dress professionally, yet sexy. You don't want to look like a bar tramp in a suit, but school marm will get you nowhere fast.
I know I get slammed by many feminists, but I can tell you this. Based on my intelligence, above average work ethic and willingness to act like one of the boys, I have NEVER been paid less, nor asked to make coffee, for the boys. At least not after they get to know me.
Good luck. Working in a male dominated industry can be tough, but success can be found if you want it bad enough. |
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fionarwilkinson
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wear short skirts and revealing tops with stockings and heels |
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yog
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i agree with mafia their above |
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Gymmi
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camy..you didn't state what your job is..to get taken seriously you must beat one of the men at the feets of strengths.. |
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Jane
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quick sleeping with all of them and they will take you a little more seriously. |
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