Cali Girl
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Dear...leave. If he loved you he would not put you in that position.
I know you love him, but think of what this is doing to you and your credit. This happened to me. I got an apt. b/c my at the time b/f needed a place to stay and had no job. I ended up in 8k of debt for food, gas, light, clothes, eating out and WAL-MART. Needless to say we broke up after a year, with me in debt, him (still) with no job and I had to pay everything on my own.
So tell him you love him, want to be with him, but if he wants to leave he can b/c no man would make his g/f make that choice if he really cares.
Good Luck! |
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Daniel A: Zionist Pig
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If you're supporting your boyfriend (and he's not working to pay his share of expenses), then he is a loser. Ditch him. |
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Jessie H
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Move in with your friend and take care of your debt. He may not stay around, but your debt will. If he truly loved you, he would get a job and help out! |
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dpilipis
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Unfortunately, love and money don't mix well.
If you keep getting further into debt it will put an amazing amount of strain on your relationship. Should the relationship fail, you would have lost the guy and only have debt to show for it.
You really have no choice, he has to either pay his way financially, or go elswhere. It is not as though you have enough money for the two of you. |
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kingfischer22
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Does your boyfriend have a good reason to not be pulling in an income? I've known guys who don't work because they prefer to mooch off their girlfriends, parents, etc. Love is blind, but force yourself to look at this guy objectively. Also bear in mind that unless you get some more income in the household, you will continue to get into more and more debt until it really gets out of your control.
Tell him to get a job! |
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Ducky LOL
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Honey trust me he should be working and helping you if he loves you. Dont let him mess up your credit like my ex husband has done to me and I still trying to get it right. |
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$m¤¤v¥ £¤¢¤
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I'm going to be as real as possible when I say this. Love is not paying the bills right now. Looks like you two need to have a "come to Jesus meeting" of sorts. TLC couldn't have put it better when they made that song about "Scrubs". I'm not trying to knock your man or anything, but it is what it is. You're living for 2 people on a one-person salary, bottom line. A wise man from Chicago once told me something, and I'll add to it. "Pain is inevitable, but misery is an option" If he's any kind of man, he needs to "man-up" and handle his business even if you two don't make it, he needs to do that on his own. Is it that he can't work? Is he in school? What's the deal? If he's in school, make him kick in with some of that Stafford Loan or Pell Grant money. Make him donate plasma to at least kick in for groceries! Either way, either give him a "*ut check" and tell him that either he:
1. Gets a job and help out
2. You move out and leave him
3 You tell him to kick rocks
Whatever you do,
Good luck, and take care of yourself! |
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tirebiter
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Move - he is draining you and won't stop until you make it stop.
If he really loves you he'll stick around - if not, he'll find some other sucker.
F - that, take care of yourself. |
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freakboynv2000
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are you freakin kidding me? why are you supporting a grown man? sounds to me like he is using you, and it's proven by the fact that he has used your feelings against you. get rid of this one NOW. |
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han
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If you are going to get sick if you will leave your bf then stay with him. better Find a sideline that will be enough to support everything that you need. |
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Saiph
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Why can't your boyfriend support himself??? Is he incapacitated? Why isn't he working? Have you sat down and explained to him that you just can't support both him and yourself? Sorry hon, but it sounds from your post that he is just mooching off of you. If he really loved you, he would care about your growing debt and would try to help, instead of threatening to leave you when you are trying to make ends meet. What's up with that?
My boyfriend and I live together, and we split the bills for the stuff we share: rent, cell phone bill (it's one account with 2 numbers), water, cable and electricity. We take turns with food shopping. I'm working, he's studying full-time but still, when one of us is going through a financial rough patch, the other pitches in to help, however we can. But we always pay each other back afterwards, or figure out a deal that works for both of us.
If your boyfriend is giving out ultimatums while your credit is suffering, I would go with my credit. It sounds like he doesn't really care for you the way he should-if he leaves you anyway further along, after you've racked up even more debt and ruined your credit, what will you do? Bad credit can take years to fix-it will give you problems buying a car, getting a loan for a house, taking out a new credit card, and can even influence your being hired for a new job (some companies check your credit). It could hinder your near future. And all for what, for a guy who just wants to laze around the house while you do all the hard work?
I say leave this dude, move in with your friend, pay off your credit cards and start anew. You can do better than this guy.
Good luck!! ^_~ |
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Topez
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You don't even need to ask. Kick him to the curb - Give him the boot - fast and with the the New York quickness!!
He ain't helping you up - he's pulling you down! |
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Mel
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First of all, if he is telling you that you have a choice and if you make the wrong one he will leave then he is not worth it. Your credit is there for the rest of your life. Will he be? You have to think of yourself. If you are having a lot of problems and wanting to keep him as well, have him start paying for things. Sounds like he is taking advantage of you if he is just mooching. |
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☼♫-♥§hayRilla♥-♫☼
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well that is a tough call right there.. but ur boyfriend shouldnt be so selfish you know .maybe you should give him a try to gt a job before a certaing time you know cuz it is hard doing it byurself let alone taking care of another person... talk with him gently of course and maybe your freind can hold on alittle longer.. in this case priorities first.. |
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retired_frog
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almost in every ones life they need help. u r providing your boyfriend that. now the important thing is he looking for a job, or is he a sitting around doing nothing. give him the option to get a job an help with all the bills. if he doesnt get one he is deffinately not for u. love has to work both ways. he loves what u do for him ,but does he love you? would he work if u were with child or run away? no job? move in with your friend, there r guys out there that will help you if they love you. GL |
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Dewey K
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Quit thinking! This guy is a user, if he really cared about you he would carry his share of the load. Dump him and be smarter the next time. |
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Laura L
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Sounds like he is just using you for a free ride.... Love is blind!!! Kick him to the curb |
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capnvalcano
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What a jerk! Ditch him! |
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Jack Asprin
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tell his lazy asss to get a job or u will move with your friends becuz your so much in debt and if u stay in debt then well u will end up like my friend reeder eatting dog food in the dark of an alley or come move in with me and u will never be in debt again |
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hans2
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boyfriends come and go, debt stays with you like forever!!!! |
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jkaiseresquire
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Men come and go, a bad credit history and debt stick around for a long time- probably much longer than this guy.
I must ask though, does this guy have a job. If so, why isn't he helping to support the household? |
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shrin_001
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this decision isnt yours to make. HE needs to decide how important you and your love are to him. If its important then he will get off his *** and help you with the bills. If its not then he has decided that you need to move in with your friend and take care of your own business without him. Let him decide this one sweety. This decision will let you know how the whole relationship will be...trust me. I have TOTALLY been in your shoes before. |
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iahtu
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Do as you were told. |
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