luvya
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Your married. Whats yours is his and whats his is yours. |
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Nicholas F
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I've been married 27 years, all of my money is my wife's. I don't care, that is why I work (she does too). I am sure your hubby might have his eye on something (a wide screen TV), but I hope after nine years of marriage and children he isn't hell bent on keeping all the money. Talk to him about it. |
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Sage
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I don't know what state you live in but where I live whatever income comes into the house belongs equally to the husband and wife....it's called community property. If you earn income it applies to you too...what's his is yours and what's yours is his. I would make sure your name is on the house deed too and not just his. |
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phxchik07
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you need to ask your husband. I would hope that he would be willing to share it with the family. But you probably should use that money towards paying off debts, or college funds for your children. |
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Krystal V
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I think it is just fine, what does your husband say about his family treating you this way? Does he buy into the whole "its my money" thing? and since it is HIS money he can do whatever he chooses with it ( i.e. give it to you) right? |
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nicole
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you are married so its your money too.. dont feel bad about it.. its ok to spend it.. |
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ajrrst
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marriage is based on sharing visit www.creatingdreams.acnrep.com |
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~♥Sasha♥~
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Every marriage is different. It is completely up to you and him... In MOST marriages, everything is shared. What's yours is his, and what's his is yours. The best thing you could do, is talk to him and see how HE feels about the issue. I'd like to think he would say what's his, is also yours..... |
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Sugarshots
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If your living in poverty and he's getting an inheritance he should be a man and use the money to raise his family out of the gutter. If he can't see it in himself to do that, you should consider divorce and use the child support to make a better life for your kids.
My mom had to ask for money and my dad controlled the finances as long as I can remember. Last year he had a stroke and my mom got the checkbook for the first time in their marriage and guess what? They are broke. He ran them into the ground with loans to relatives and unnecessary purchases. And they still have little kids. So not only will they probably be dead before my siblings graduate but they are left with the fallout of a one-sided financial relationship. |
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shweta -
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forget abt ur aunt or father....u shud only care what ur hubby thinks abt u using his money???? u both were together when thgs were Bad with u guys...nobody else come to help u...u shares ur hubby's sorrow & bad fate so now if u ppl got money y not to share that one also??furniture n all is not excl.for ur use...all will be using it...So dont feel guilty at all
but do ask abt his to ur hubby |
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Moon Girl
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Is it okay with him that you spent some of it? There is nothing wrong as long as you don't go crazy with it and don't forget that it is his inherts, so just give him a heads up if you want to get something, that you need. |
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cerberos
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yes your money is your husband money. but maybe separately in account.
dont listen to anybody la.
you have your own family and make your decision |
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YOU GOTTA MOVE TO IMPROVE!
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Have you asked your husband how he feels about things? You know how tight money has been in the past. It's normal to want to spend when you come into money unexpectedly. You feel like you won the lottery. Just listen to your heart. We all want nice things but sometimes we have to be more practical. Talk it over with your husband before making "unnecessary" purchases. This may be a chance for you two to make a real change for the better. So shop wisely. Or you may find yourselves back where you started..Good luck |
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thefreakinchicken
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Talk to him about it. I think whats his is yours but ask him how he feels. Also rather than spend it on furniture and stuff you can hold off to. Try to put that money to work for you. Invested in something like.... I don't know a home. Think about the future. Don't feel bad, but also don't blow off that money that someone else worked hard for. |
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trebs
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Oh baby, you married for better or worse, for richer or poorer...Do you honestly think you husband would be worrying if the inheritance was yours and not his?
I admire your morals, a lot of women would just file for divorce and get most of the inheritance,
Stop feeling guilty. You've missed out on a lot of opportunity to be self-sufficient to bring up 'his' family. If he's seen fit to 'keep' you (and your children) in squalor because there was nothing else for it, he's got no excuses now.
Talk to him about how you feel and ask him for a housekeeping allowance. That way you'll be spending 'your money'...if it makes you feel more comfortable |
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The PENsive Insomniac
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I would make sure your husband approves of the purchases, that he likes what you buy. Try not to be overly greedy so that he cannot feel like you are spending all of it. Keep him in the loop of where it is going so that he feels that he is providing for the family. This is what I would do. I hope this helps.
This is my way of answering. |
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hi91977
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your aunt & dad are correct. it is all his because it is an inheritance from his side of the family. in addition, there may be rules on that inheritance. it is not his income that is earned in the marriage that the family is entitled too.
if that money is keep is a separate account under his name and no other monies go into it other then the inheritance, then that account is off limits. if however, he comingles that money into a joint account with you, then by all means the you, your husband, & your kids are entitled to it.
like a business, you'll need to convence him why certain things are needed. |
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shaylove
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That your husband not your roommate if hes not complaining then who cares what anyone else thinks just don't go over board you still have a family to raise buy something really sexy that he can enjoy IT HIS MONEY I BET HE WANT COMPLAIN. |
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pia
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HIS inheritance is HIS... as long as he keeps it in a separate account and doesn't co-mingle it with income. It is not like "income" which is shared in a marriage.
However, the upkeep of your family is a shared responsibility. HE CAN CHOOSE to share part of his inheritance with you and the family, and I hope that he does this.
Probably the best way for him to do this is to give you an "extras" allowance per week or per month from his inheritance. This can go toward needed extras. If you want new clothes, etc. for yourself, HE needs to choose to give you $xxx.xx for this purpose.
The gift of GIVING is the most enjoyable of all, let him have a chance to do this. You ruin the joy if you demand part of his inheritance.
Good luck, and spend wisely. |
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