cafc2005
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Have your debit card deactivied to stop the unauthorized charges. Does your stepson live with you? Try and retrieve the stolen and items and get them returned. Talk to your stepson's mother and father about his terrible behavior. |
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Dave
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Well, cancel the debit card. Make him pay you back.
He likes having internet? Take it away until he pays you back. He needs to understand that its not OK to steal.
You can take away the internet by putting an administrative password up or using a parental control software package. Tell him that he can get as angry as he wants, but he stole from you so you have to make sure he won't steal any more money using your cards.
But make sure it was him that stole from you. Also find out WHAT he stole. Some of it might be returnable. |
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Ta-Zu (&Miku)
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1. Hide your debit card better. I don't have a debit card yet, but don't you need the...code or something? Or is that only getting money out of it.
2. Make him pay for all of the items and take them away.
3. If he wants them back, he'll have to make up the money again. |
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Dug48
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Take all items he bought and return them. If you are still out money, give him jobs around the house to do at so much an hour until he makes it up to you. Make sure he knows that if he does it again, you will file a report with the police. He has to develop boundaries. |
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Noone i
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Grab the little SOB by the ear and drag him to the police station and turn him over. Then drive home and have a nice quiet meal by yourself, knowing you did the right thing.
Change the locks and phone number while he is there. |
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frau_osti
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Oh my goodness! Cancel the card, or report it stolen so you don't (?) have to pay for the stuff he bought. Make sure this issue is brought to light with his parent, (the mom or dad). That's theft, and there shouldn't be any kindness served to him. His is a stepson, so there's the biological 'not your child thing'. But that's still theft, and if you're people who care about your credit and your money, then this needs to be dealt with accordingly. If the biological parent wants to blow it off, STAND YOUR GROUND!! What if it was the neighbors debit card, would they just let go? I think not. If it were me, and the biological parent wanted to just let go, and was pressuring me to do the same, I'd press charges against the kid. Often hard lessons learned now are remembered in the future. Hope this helps, good luck! |
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mairdo51
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Punish him, severely, for such audacity. |
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ready2go67
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Call the police. Most credit cards won't credit you back the money unless you file a police report. Due to him being a minor I'm sure the penalty is light. Since he is your step son, Im sure they'll go easy on the kid.
You need to make a statement to this kid that Identity theft is a REAL crime! |
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JJ
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I suggest you speak to your local police, see what they suggest or if they can help you. Hopefully they will have a chat to him so he can really see where his behaviour may lead. If you cant return the items then I suggest you take your stepson and the items to a local charity and get him to explain to they why they are being donated. Under no circumstances should he be allowed to keep any of the items. |
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Terry
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Tell your bank to prevent further theft, and inform the police. Honestly, putting kids like this into the system on their first offence is usually the best way to wake them up. |
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Rex T
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If you report it, he could be charged with theft. Under common law, minors can generally undo contracts unless he bought food and ate it. Try contacting the vendors and explaining and see if you can return things. You will still be stuck for shipping. |
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dc20k
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woah good luck with that
if he's suicidal then you cant really do anything because he'll threaten to kill himself, if he's not then handle things reasonably an eye for an eye |
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Skamber
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My lil sister did the same to me. What you need to do is go down to the police station yourself and sign-up for the sterred straghit program. What they do is come aresst him, process and book him, make him spend the night in a jail cell and go through a fake court case where he gets found guilty on a count of what he does. But don't worry its not for real. But you can chose how long you want him to stay. That teaches him a lesson and then at home make work and pay you back the money then have a yard sale with all the things he bought and then finally take away all off this stuff:
Computer
T.V
C.Ds/ C.D Player
Allowance
Friends coming over/going over to friends
No new clothes/shoes
Only being aloud to vist family
And any vactions/camps/partys he wants to go one over the summer |
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hi_iduntcyber_doyou
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find everything he bought..sell it on ebay...and make him work off the money by either doing community service *church, fire department, nursing home, parks etc*, work around your house, of if you know someone that owns a business..work for them..he obviously was never taught the vaule of a dollar..and now its better then ever for him to learn |
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savetheday
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Being a step parent myself, it's hard dealing with kids and he, more than likely, is looking for attention as it's tough when families break up. You must deal with this matter however .. contact the credit card company and the on-line internet, explain his underage and that you are not going to pay the charges . If products not received yet just REFUSE them. Also, sit down and talk with him and see if you can figure out what his REAL problem is. Good luck. |
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Montage
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Have as many charges as possible reversed. For the rest of the things all you need to do is return them, because your son is a minor he can disaffirm any contract he enters into(includes sales contracts) and all he needs to do is return the product (will most likely work even if opened) |
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