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Some people are missing the point here--this little girl is eleven years old. She doesn't owe her mother rent or grocery money because she is a child--the money was in the bank--the only one who could get it out was the mother. This child earned this money all by herself---and her mother blew it on booze and junk !
As a grandmother with seven grandchildren, I can tell you exactly what to do.
Call your grandparents and tell them what she did and that she won't pay you back.
Your mother better be glad she isn't my daughter--I would probably still take a switch to her.
and while you're at it---tell you dad what she did.
GRRRRRRRRRRRRR.....that makes me mad!!!
*well you sound like a good and responsible little girl. Your mother is darn lucky to have you. You certainly do alot of work. |
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onekidlet
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First of all, your mother should be ashamed of herself! She stole money from her own child! NOT GOOD!
I would discuss this with a trusted adult (related or not) and ask them exactly what you should do... and, perhaps, they would offer to stand with you, when you confront her.
For her to steal from you... then go out drinking with her friends is disgusting! I certainly hope she doesn't drive drunk!
My son has a little spending money in his wallet... if I need some (because I ran out or something) I ALWAYS put an I.O.U. in there and give him a little interest for saving me the hassel of driving to the bank!
I sure hope you get your money back. Maybe she can give you installments... $50 per week or something. But, when you get it back... HIDE IT well! |
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♥Shortie♥
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Well you could steel it back from her but if you took it to court you would definitely get it but your mom would be extremely mad.Another nicer way it to sit down and talk to her you could say that you worked really hard to earn that money and you would really like to get it back from her. |
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CrazyKaycin
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Some mothers are like this and that's just horrible. I have had to 'borrow' my children's money on the odd occasion but I have ALWAYS payed it back. It is not right for her to do and you may never see that money again.
My suggestion would be to try and talk to her about it. Maybe she doesn't realize how much it is bothering you. Or it's possible she is having problems and just hasn't had it to give back to you. If you thing she really is not going to give it back then maybe you should just keep any earned money from now on hidden from her.
Good Luck and I wish you the best.
PS: to all those who have suggested that she just forget it because of all the money that a parent spends on her GET REAL! that is what a parent is for. NOT to be compensated by money earned from a child! |
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eddygordo19
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You can ask her for it back, but I'm not sure how hard you want to push it. I don't know if an 11 year old can file a lawsuit. Maybe you can talk to a lawyer in your state.
Either find a bank that will not require an adult to be a joint holder of the account, or learn to hide your money. |
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miakala
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Take small amounts of her own money until it sums up to 200 dollars...and if I were you I'd take interest.
OR
There's always calling Doctor Laura... |
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Wu
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Sue? Thats your mom. How can you sue your mom? IF you don't like how things is, move out or hid your money better. THink of it like this, you are paying part rent... |
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statetime2000
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Well your mom shouldnt have taken your money. However, think of all the money your mother spent raising you. All those diapers, cloths and food wasnt free. You should say something to her, but let it go. |
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vasan
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keep your money safe- donot give room for repeatation |
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ft3535
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do you pay rent?
food and board? |
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Orlando57
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tell everyone about her doing this your grand parents on both sides and your dad and your school counselor and then tell her that you will tel them if she doesnt replace the money since you worked for it and shes not being fair and doctor phil would like this story |
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TN Seeker
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Unfortunately it sounds like you are not being taught much in the way of sound financial behavior. Sorry, but the $200 is gone. If you save, you'll have to hide it (well) and not breathe a word or she'll spend that too. Perhaps one day when she adopts safer behavior you'll be able to share that trust with her maybe you once had. Sorry Kiddo. See if your grandparents would like to cover her for it?? |
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Aeris
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$200? That isn't right. Even if it was a gift from your birthday, it still isn't right for your mom to take it and spend it. She should have put it in a bank account to save for college, an emergency, or even clothes or school supplies for you.
You can try talking to her about it. But if she is like some mothers, she'll just blow you off. And pretend like it's no big deal.
From now on, take care of yourself. It sounds like family is too far away to intervene. But if you have a trusted family member have them open a bank account in your name. Anyone over 18 can do it for you. It will be a UTMA account. Unfortunately, you have to make sure you trust this individual since you won't be able to touch it without them signing it over to you.
The other thing you can do is hide the money next time. Also don't forget to remind your mom from time to time. She might just pay you back little by little. Keep track by writing it all down. $5 here and there adds up.
good luck! |
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PuterPrsn
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Sorry, at age 11 you can't sue - you have to be at least 18. There's not much you can do at your age. You might tell your grandparents what happened and see if they can offer any advice or if they can push your mom into paying it back. |
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The Whopper
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you eat her food and she clothes you and she makes sure your dry....let it go....you never own anything until your 18 yrs old...i know this sucks but its just the way it is. |
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sparkydog_1372
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yes, take her to small claims court |
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I Bleed Black & Gold
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talk to her about it. |
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©hel§
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tell her she needs to give it back to you you earned it.
Take Care |
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countrygirl
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Wow.. You have every right to the money you earned. My question is: Did you ask your dad, or grandparents/ aunts/uncles to help you confront her? Very calmly, tell your mom that you know she had your money and spent it, and you'd like for her to pay you back as quickly as possible. If she refuses or denies she did it, take your other responsible adult, get your bank statements, and go to small claims court. It's absolutely unfair for her to take your money, spend it on unnecessary things, and never repay you - especially after you worked hard to earn your money. |
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Kristine B
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Dr. Phil show
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Los Angeles, CA 90036
Write to Dr. Phil
or email him go to his site and set up account its free www.drphil.com
She should be embarrassed.
Good luck. |
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ReviewsBV
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What do you want for a long term relationship with your mother?
What did you do for her on Mother's day?
Is this the beginning of the end? Or the beginning of rebuilding? Can you put a price on it? |
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scottalan99
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She's your mom. Let it go and DON'T fall into the trap again (unless she pays you back). Sometimes our parents don't exactly ACT like parents. Hang in there. |
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Drazir
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Considering she is your mother, I'd forgive her... Money should not come between relationships like that. I'd sit down with her and talk about it, but I wouldn't request it back. I'd say something to the effect of I don't think that was a good thing to do, but I would not recommend suing. |
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sweetLynn
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You will never see that cash again lol. Once your mom starts telling you about her labor pains she had to go through having you. |
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vrocks
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confront her.you deserve the money. she has no rite to take it from you. Tell her how unfair it is. And tell her you wont trust her next time. Dont sue her. I mean shes your mom. But I agree that its unfair. It's yours. If she gives an excuse that she's been paying for your everything, tell her that its because you're her responsibility but she is not yours(responsibility). Your not her mom. |
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Brandon R
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With the little money you have left, get a new mom. I hate to say it but, someone has to. |
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rose
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Ok for all the people that say she should move out or her mom pays for her so let it go is way stupid. She is 11 years old people there will be no moving out that is a stupid answer to her problem. For the part that her mom is raising her well people get real her mom decided to have a child and she knew it would take money to do so, there for that is just stupid. Even tho taking a little money at a time seems like a good idea dont do this because you will be more wrong then she is she at least told you . Just ask her bout it say you would like to save up to buy something, ask if you still have the 200 or does your mom still have it justs ee what she says. |
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