What would you do if you were me... I guess I'm just easy...?

I'm from a very wealthy family and my friends are always asking me for some money. It's NOT a borrow, I don't need it back, but they're CONSTANTLY asking me! I'll give them 50 bucks for some groceries and whatnot, 200 to help them with their bills/taxes, whatever... and they STILL keep asking! I mean, I have the money to give them, but when will they make their OWN money??

No, you have to stop. These people are not behaving like real friends. Real friends would only ask you in an emergency, and then they would have a serious plan to pay you back. You would be free to say, "No, this is a gift," but it should NEVER be their idea. Gifts are the giver's privelege, and should not be requested.

I would stop giving them money it sounds like they are using you

As soon as you stop being their crutch. Sorry, but it's true. They have you to get them by so they don't need to do it on their own. As big as your heart is, you really aren't helping them.

I'd say No, but if they urgently needed the money, then I'd probably let them borrow. If they do not return the money, I'd threathen them, hahaha.

What kind of friends do you have anyway?
They're using you and taking you for granted.
You should get new ones!

Good luck

its nice to be able to help people out but I think your friends are not really your friends, they are using you and you are letting them, so knock it off! just get other friends maybe you should have some friends with money. if you let people use you, you have a self esteem problem. and that's not good so start doing nice things for yourself and you can do good deeds for others that don't involve money.

Unfortunately, they will not be hurrying to make their own money b/c they have absolutely no incentive too! All they have to do is ask you, and presto! Your "well" doesn't run dry, so why should they put forth any effort in "digging" their own? No need too, they have you (sorry for the repetition, but its needed in this situation)! When people have money, and others hang around them, they never know if those people are true friends--you know, "Do they like you for you, or are they just hanging out with you for ALL that YOU do for THEM? Ask yourself, what have THEY done for YOU lately? Probably not much. The bottom line is that it seems they are using you, but you're as much to blame b/c you're teaching them that it's ok to use you--when its really not ok. It seems like you may be "buying" their love, and this may not even be conscious behavior on your part. But it is definitely worth giving some thought to. You have so much more to offer...Since this is something that you are bothered by, maybe set some DEFINITE LIMITS with your "friends" and see if they stick around...LIMITS= telling them you will no longer be GIVING AWAY money (but its crucial that you say it and mean it--your actions have to back up what you said, so you can't say you won't give them money, then turn around and give it to them). You can go "cold turkey" and stop giving money all together, or you can wean them off if its too hard emtionally for you to go cold turkey. That is, you can let them know that you will no longer be GIVING them money, and that any money you LOAN MUST BE REPAYED BY "X" DATE (maybe on their payday) AND THAT AFTER THIS MONTH, DECEMBER 31, 2006, YOU WILL NO LONGER BE LOANING MONEY--you might even make this a New Year's resolution, and let them know that this is difficult for you, but you need their support in helping you to keep this resolution, so please support you by not asking, begging, lamenting, telling you they have to beg someone else for money, etc. Love yourself, you are so worth it. If you do not nip this in the bud, what is likely to happen is that you grow to resent them for using you, and then start having negative feelings toward your self --you start having intense feelings about not really wanting to give them money, but doing it anyway--so you start turning those negative feelings on yourself, so it becomes a vicious cycle. You soon come to realize that although you don't require that they pay you back, that you're not even getting your basic needs met from your "friends"--like emotional support, being there for you when you need them, and not just when they know they are going to get something from you...This is what I have done. HTH, best of luck to you with setting limits, and building relationships that you really deserve.

Wow, You are really being taken advantage of. If you still live at home tell everyone that your folks are cutting you off for awhile and don't lend anyone anything for several weeks. See who all stays around. It will weed out those who are not your true friends, at least. Generosity is great, but don't be quite so easy.

There is a saying "give a man a fish and he will eat for a day, teach him to fish and he will always have plenty". Maybe what your friends need is a help up, not a hand out.......Try hooking them up with jobs, or school. If you truly have that much money it is coming from somewhere, so you must have some pull somewhere........They will never make any money if you keep giving it to them.....Also you must consider whether they are true friends or they are they just using you....SSSSorry! There are a huge amount of grants out there for education, starting a business, etc.; look at these, get them to look at those.......Also if you are wealthy, are you giving back? By this I mean are you helping the homeless, or HIV/AIDS research, or the MD foundation, or the Arts? Something, anything to give back....I hope you vote......Good luck with your friends....

can i borrow 500 bucks? I promise wont pay it back!! stop letting your friends use you and see what happens!

cut them off. you are not a cash machine

I think you need to find some friends with jobs. Hopefully their really your friends and not leaches. You really need to start saying no. NO, NO NO. Tell them you've helped them enough its time for them to help themselves.

I would stop giving them so much money.

There is a hard world out there waiting for your friends. I would tell them this and stop lending them money. They need to start fending for themselves or else they will not survive the real world. Help them find a job or whatever but don't give them more money- they need to face the world. What happens if you aren't there one day, they wont be able to cope. If they are real friends then they will understand this. Did the thought ever come up that they might be using you for your money?

As long as you keep giving I do not think they will try too hard to get it by work. I would maybe limit it to people that need food, to pay the rent, etc. You can still help people, but maybe in a more responsible way.

you should stand up for yourself man. there's nothing wrong with helping people, but there is never a need to be ran over or used. i say cut 'em off and see what happens. if they're worth having as friends, they'll understand and stick around. if not, let 'em go. you're better off.

maybe you should tell them that they can BORROW the money(if they really need it), and tell them you will work out an easy repayment plan. Your friends should NOT expect you to hand over money to them without any intentions of repaying it. If they become angry about that, or refuse to repay it, I would suggest looking for new friends.

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