Eddie D
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I must correct Maggie A above. Gore Vidal said that whenever anyone says "it is not the money , it is the principle" it's always the money. |
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heart o' gold
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Hm...not if you want to eventually get your money.
I never loan money, ever. If I decide to give money to a friend, I do it as a gift. Loaning money to a friend is always a mistake. |
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Gerald
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Rob Watts a matter you. Don't you watch Judge Judy--Brown --- Milan. The court small claims-- got people in their every day. Loaned money to firends and now their is a suit to collect. NEVER LOAN MONEY TO FRIENDS RELATIVES OR ANYBODY--you are not a bank. Ruins relationships. Your friendship is over--OK |
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Lawrence R
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Yes. He lied to you. He told you he wanted a loan when what he really wanted to do was rob you becuase you are richer then him. Its just as much about the fact the he conned you as the fact that he won't pay you back. |
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Strip
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I learned the hard way: Don't give unless you can afford to gift.
A dear friend of over 20 years was having some hard times and none of her family would help so I did. It's been several years and she's now financially successful and she believes she doesn't need to repay me because we were friends. I had several emails from her saying that she would pay me back when she felt like it if ever. Our friendship has sadly dissolved over this.
What goes around comes around.... |
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Lisa C
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Not necessarily a divorce from your friend. But a serious talk. Especially now, money is important, and obviously when you lend it to someone. Lending money to someone close is tough. Let this person know it's not respectful what he is doing, and hopefully everything will work out. Good luck. |
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Paul C
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Sod the divorce, your "friend" is now a thief, take them to court to recover your money |
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m15
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Friendship divorce it should be.
And a trip to Judge Judy, who sees plenty of these situations in her courtroom. |
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Jean-Luc
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Friendship and money never mix. How many times have we seen a variation on this question?
You're going to have to insist on the return of the cash - even if he has to get a loan elsewhere. He couldn't borrow off a bank and not repay 'cos "they,ve got more money" than him, could he?
Sounds more like he's taking the pi55 to me. |
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Terry
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First, it is a learning opportunity for you. You should never lend money to family or friends. That's the job of banks and finance companies, who have a business set up to deal with non-payment.
Next, this is your fault as much as theirs. If you want to break up the friendship then do so, but remember that you contributed to this situation by lending money in the first place. You made a bad decision.
Finally, someone who holds your own income against you for the purposes of delaying repayment of a debt is NOT a friend - they are a leach. If they were truly having trouble repaying, that would be one thing - but to try and make it your problem - that is immoral and unacceptable. I doubt they were ever truly a friend. |
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Pengy
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Hopefully you got a signed note, then you can take them to court, in either case I would say the friendship is sadly over. Does not matter how much you make in comparison to them the fact is you loaned it. If nothing was signed chalk it up as a learning experience and move on, leaving this obvious loser to find other people to use, before you are taken again. |
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STEVEN F
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NO. You don't have a friendship to end. It ended the day you LOANED the friend anything. I would consider GIVING a friend money, but loans KILL relationships. |
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Judy1
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Borrowing and lending money has ruined a lot of friendships.
His excuse that you make more is ridiculous,and has nothing to do with his not paying you. |
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caseysxyz
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Argh I have to keep up with my memos...... What the heck is friendship divorce?
Anyway, since I don't know what that is, I really can't answer that question. However, pissing off people that owe you money, no matter how momentarily satisfying that may be, is not a bright move. First you have a dead beat that isn't paying you. Next you have a dead beat that is not paying you that is your enemy? Where is the upgrade?
You should be hugging the dude. Take notes what does he own? Has he considered selling or pawning this or that to get you paid back? It really is not about who is making more money. Bank of America makes more money than him and you, do you think that they are going to wait on a payment for that reason? What it is about is your friend being responsible. Don't talk to him. Talk to women around him so he can hear. "Dude, you got a choice. I can tell the story about what a righteous responsible sure to be a great lover you are. Or, I can tell them about the low life low sperm count dead beat that will certainly short you on the child support dude."
The money is already gone. Don't sweat that. All you can influence is getting it back. Focus on the goal not the feeling. |
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Pet lover
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Yes, because it's not the money, it's the principle.
There, simple and sweet just like me. |
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