Ang
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To answer your specific questions:
1. There is no such thing as an "unreasonable hour." That varies from person to person. Some people are just intolerant of noise, especially on weekends when they might want to sleep in.
2. Maybe you're upset that she was able to voice her complaints to you, but you haven't felt comfortable voicing your complaints to her.
Maybe she never mentioned anything before because she didn't know how to bring it up. Some people get really touchy about their children. And I'm not exactly sure how paying more rent than she does has any bearing on this situation.
Living in an apartment building requires some compromise on all of the tenants' parts. Work out a deal with her: you'll try to keep your children's noise down if she'll cut back on the Sunday church music concerts. |
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aLiCiA
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Things like this happen in apartments...she will have to get over it or move out.
Good Luck! |
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lainemmitchell
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Noise from neighbors is one of the things everyone in an apartment just has to live with.
As long as your children aren't banging on drum sets at 7 in the morning, I would ignore it. It's likely that the landlord will ignore her complaints as well. |
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2shay
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b4 7am would be unacceptable hour on weekends.
your protective of your kids so of course you would take it to heart.
If she plays church music she should be in favor of children and she should let it go. |
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chatsplas
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She probably had to work herself up to mentioning it to you. You missed an opportunity to discuss the noise issue with her. To find out what time she thinks is too noisy and to ask if she could NOT wear heels upstairs. A calm discussion, not shouted trading of complaints. You could have offered to keep the kids quiet before 9am and ask her to turn down her volume on the church music. Go to her now and have a
discussion, letting her know you weren't aware of any problem, and sharing your noise concerns with her. You guys live together, so better to work things out.
Who pays more rent is irrelevant! Oh, because I pay more rent I can make more noise than she can, and she can't complain--C'mon.
Lots of people like to sleep in on weekends. Noise before 9am is definitely unreasonable. |
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gonzo
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Maybe she listens music loud because she doesn't want to hear your kids. |
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Jenn
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OMG...not loud church music! I think you are over reacting. She may be too. People who live in apartments need to understand that kids make noise...if they don't like it then they can move. It doesn't matter who pays more rent, both of you should be considerate to each other. |
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Alterfemego
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Sarah,
#1 consider the source. Maybe she doesn't have anyone who pays her attention, maybe you could work on becoming friends? On the other hand did she indicate that their noise was bothering her?
#2 Don't take it personally. She may not have meant anything by it.
Music & heels, well no one above you is going to be totally quiet. It may not be possible. I would let it go this time. Be cordial to her, maybe suggest a dinner sometime.
But maybe pay more attention to your kids on the weekends. And say nothing more. |
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smedrik
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Don't worry about it. There is really no reason to be upset.
You have thin walls in the place. If she brings it up again, just point that out. State yes, the walls around here sure are thin. I can often hear what you are up to! |
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shywilliams6504
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It is difficult dealing with neighbors rather they be upstairs or downstairs. I would suggest that you discuss what times you both feel are appropriate for her to hear noises coming out of your apartment and vice versa. I think personally anything before nine a.m is rude and anything after ten. People have children that need to sleep. And what about those that work in the night etc. Weekends are harder though.. people want to relax.. so If she wants to play her music loudly on Sundays she can't expect your kids are going to want to get up and play come a Saturday morning. It is only natural. |
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Gertie
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Just ignore her she just wants something to complain about you will know if your kids are being to loud enough to disturb the neighbors. Now as for your husband he probably realizes how stupid it is to complain about someone's kids being a little loud on the weekend morning. If they were being loud every single day then I could understand her complaint but sounds to me like its all in her head. |
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seekandyoushallfind
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She sounds like a disturbed HYPOCRITE , sorrty to say alot of so called CHURCH people at first come about so nice and talkative ,, listening and playing such music,,,those are just the ones which are so bothered by children does she have children of her own ...is she married ...She must be lacking something else ...If being so Godly is obvioulsy not enough for her ...some people can be just miserable in their own life they just can't wait to knock or find fault with their own . If I were you I would kindly tell her yes , "why not speack to my landlord (only if you know for a fact the kids are not obsurdly loud )and let her know ,,,I was a little taken back by your comment yesterday , is their something else bothering you ? Otherwise to me they lady may even be BIPOLAR and that you just can not help .Good luck !! FOR crying outloud ARE KIDS NOT A BLESSING ??,and yes KIDSdo make noise ,THEY ARE KIDS !!! |
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Smalls
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Who cares what she says. When she complains tell her to stop the loud music and heals and then you'll try to keep the kids quiet. Let her move out if she doesn't like it. |
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mike122576
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maybe it took her so long to say something because she didnt know how .... i think the reason you took it to heart is because they are your kids and thats what mothers do !! your husband is probably like most guys not affected by this kind of thing ... to him its no big deal now if they were to get hurt or something i am sure he would react ... i think if it is 10.00 p.m. or after then yeah she has the right to complain ...but if it is no later that 9.00p.m. and she is complaining i would tell her go play her church music that i dont complain about and you wont hear my kids !! my thoughts thats all .... good luck !! |
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tjmgyo
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not one |
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LifeIsPeachy
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WEEKEND, MORNINGS..... thats the point.... those kids can make whatever noise they want! I could understand if it was 11 pm on a tues night, but I also think the reason it bothered you so much is someone is talking about YOUR kids! Not only that, you never said anything about the church music and I'm sure you care how she feels... I would go along with your business and if she really has the nerve to tell the landlord, then hopefully he/she is the type of person to understand mornings on a weekend are not a bad time to be a little noisy. |
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jjayferg
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Let her take it up with the landlord. She can't tell you to keep it down.
Untill you hear something from the landlord I'd tell your kids that they can be as loud as they want for 10 minutes on every Saturday morning. |
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