Annie
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If you can't tell what itis, call it what you think it is, and if they get mad at you, it is their fault for looking like the opposite gender. I call them an "it" if I can't tell what they are. Sometimes it is scary to talk to them if you are not sure.
Mishal
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mmmmmmunday
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I AGREE, IT'S PAT |
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BIMMER
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if you are writing a letter, you can write:
ma'am/sir: |
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sam_c5230
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well, if you're writing a letter you usually put "to whom it may concern" |
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babygurl
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my friend, when i cant remember someones name that i see alot i say "good to see you my friend" |
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The Dude
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NO ! ! ! Just address them by their name (Which most of the time is a big giveaway) if you don't know their name then you may wanna try asking, sometimes their voice will also give it away. Just don't use terms like hey you. |
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ferris
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hahahah that happened before and until this day i still dont know if it was a guy or a girl. I was joining the reserves and in the applicant centre was somekind of heshe.. |
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b_slap99
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It's hard to tell these days isn't it? the only gender non specific word that I know of is "it" |
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Drewe
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Why do you have to say anything? What's wrong with, "May I help you?" or "Thank you" or "Excuse me you are standing on my foot. Please, for the sake of all androgynous and transsexual people - DON'T GUESS! Its better to say nothing than to guess wrong. You can seriously ruin someones day. |
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strangemcrperson17
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sallutations! |
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nwtobe
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A simple, "Hello" or "Greetings" will suffice. |
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sealife8
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try "hey, you". |
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insuranceguytx
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"The sweetest sound you will ever hear is the sound of your own name."
Knowing someone's name goes a long way in business. Learn a system to remember. |
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Notnadia
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Yes. It's Pat. |
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Steven S.
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If you mean you don't know their gender because you haven't met them, you address a letter, for example, with "Dear Sir or Madam." If you've met them and still can't tell, that's another problem completely. |
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Sassy
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In a letter you can say "To whom it may concern" or if you are addressing it to a person but don't know their gender you can sometimes use the person's title, like "Dear Dr." or "Dear customer service representative." |
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Sabina
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Well, I don't know how to do it in person, but when you write a letter you write, "Dear __________ (put official title here, for example Dear Office Manager), or "To Whom it May Concern."
In person, I might say, "I'm sorry, what did you say your name was?" Their response might give you insight to what their gender is! |
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well if you are just saying hello you could ask "so where is your significant other?, where is your better half?" ad they may say "he/she is home" this might help |
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migz
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excuse me but.............. or just try to create a sentence without using sir or ma'am like excuse me but that shirt looks very nice. or my name is............. wait for reply, hopefully they'll tell you.. I've been in this situation many times but i didn't have to be really respectfulll |
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Kristin
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Thats a good question. If you have any doubts about someone's gender definatly dont guess.. I think the only way to handle it is to leave the sir or ma'am out. You can be respectful to someone without referring to their gender. |
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Ingrid
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Don't say anything, just start talking to them. |
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Ted
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if your writing to someone and your not sure I use the term to whom it may concern |
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